Need help motivating

[elit3keraed]

How do you guys motivate yourselves at the absolute lowest? I'm not gonna lie, if it werent for being emotionslly dead from the tren I am taking i would have probably killed myself after this last weekend because of just how shit life went in a matter of hours.



My diet the last few days has been liquor, whatever my friend fed me while i was blackout drunk, a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of parmesan cheese thats in my fridge. I have no motivation to meal prep. No desire to even eat. Police ransacked my bedroom and I havent even bothered to clean up my room and have opted to sleep on top of whatever is on my bed.


I mean. "Break ups make bodybuilders" but how the fuck do you even find that spark to move.


Im sure Ill get a good number of "dont be a pussy" posts but figured maybe a fair number of you guys have been in similar spots and can relate somewhat to the spot I am in

 

[Multislacking]

Been there, done that. It sucks. The old "fake it till you make it" comes to mind. The shit situation you're in is temporary...even if it seems like it isn't.

Goal setting usually helps. Even if it's something as simple as "I'm not going to drink today" or "I'm going to workout today". And then do it...regardless. One day at a time, and one foot in front of the other, until this is in the past.

 

[GarlicChicken]

Been there, done that. It sucks. The old "fake it till you make it" comes to mind. The shit situation you're in is temporary...even if it seems like it isn't.

Goal setting usually helps. Even if it's something as simple as "I'm not going to drink today" or "I'm going to workout today". And then do it...regardless. One day at a time, and one foot in front of the other, until this is in the past.

I think this is good advice. I'm not sure exactly what happened but so I'm not sure what kind of long term ramifications there are. Hopefully it's not too much.

Keep your head up man, you'll get it figured out

 

[Kjun]

When things aren't going right for myself, I put my head phones on and listen to youtube. I know its sounds dumb but turn on some motivational speech channels and listen, it gets really deep and will make you check yourself. It puts things in perspective for me, but just my input. Good luck, the clock never stops so press on

 

[Intense]

Well what happened?


In the mean time take it easy on the parmesan

 

[gymprincess1989]

Nothing is sweeter than setting goals and achieving them. The more you have against you the better you feel. When i feel like skipping the gym, i listen to a few songs or just take the pre knowing it will will kick in. When I arrive for my workout I just remember this is what seperates us. You see the same lame ass people at the gym everyday looking the same not getting stronger not accomplishing shit.

I started at ground 0 after my addiction. Lost my kids, no home, no car no job. I climbed out of the hole with a free spirit and goals. I have all of that back and after birthing 3 kids, working 45 hours a week, taking care of the kids and a home I still have accomplished so much.

Here are some pics of motivation.

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[Multislacking]

Well, at least I feel motivated now...

 

[Augustine5I]

PPl will turn into themselves and focus on the gym and getting their bodies into fantastic shape when bad things happen... becomes something they can visualize and control.

Worry only about what "you" can control. And let the rest go...

Self medicating with booze will only spiral you further into depression. If you have to, go the gym late at night so you can occupy yourself instead of drinking.

And find another girl asap. You will feel less lonely and needy. And give you someone to focus on instead of your ex.

 

[Belle]

How do you guys motivate yourselves at the absolute lowest? I'm not gonna lie, if it werent for being emotionslly dead from the tren I am taking i would have probably killed myself after this last weekend because of just how shit life went in a matter of hours.



My diet the last few days has been liquor, whatever my friend fed me while i was blackout drunk, a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of parmesan cheese thats in my fridge. I have no motivation to meal prep. No desire to even eat. Police ransacked my bedroom and I havent even bothered to clean up my room and have opted to sleep on top of whatever is on my bed.


I mean. "Break ups make bodybuilders" but how the fuck do you even find that spark to move.


Im sure Ill get a good number of "dont be a pussy" posts but figured maybe a fair number of you guys have been in similar spots and can relate somewhat to the spot I am in

I remember that feeling. I was drowning myself in liquor. As soon as I could breathe, I'd drown myself in more booze so I didn't feel like I had to breathe. I went out with the intention on getting myself into trouble, not being me anymore. I wasn't good enough. Knowing that, just made me want to drown myself even more. I had my suicide planned, everything lined up, auto-transfers set, accounts closed, beneficiaries good to go.. the works. All my info and passwords and instruction was on a blog. And I had a plan. I just had to send the one email, and I was good to go. No one knew, but it comforted me knowing peace was around the corner, sooner or later.
I didn't give a fuck what happened to me. Whatever made it stop, I was good with.

I can't tell you what motivated me more, deciding to be good enough for myself, or trusting that one day I'd find someone who would think that I am more than good enough for them. But if you stay in that hole, you rid yourself of that chance. You gotta find that spark for yourself. No one will or can do it for you. Dig deep, discipline yourself. Force yourself through the motions. You can control you. So do it.

"In the absence of love, I knew not who I was. But in loving myself again my reason for being here was set alight. Even the sun noticed my fire"
Stay strong my friend. Take your power back.

 

[kudegras]

you look great gymprincess you did awesome tightening up i mean that with all do respect not hitting on you or nothing. I motivate myself with music of course, watching people that inspire me but most of all thinking about how I am improving and getting my body so much better and so much healthier. just the thought of being in great shape and how the hard work will pay off makes me want to get up and go hit the gym.

 

[gymprincess1989]

you look great gymprincess you did awesome tightening up i mean that with all do respect not hitting on you or nothing. I motivate myself with music of course, watching people that inspire me but most of all thinking about how I am improving and getting my body so much better and so much healthier. just the thought of being in great shape and how the hard work will pay off makes me want to get up and go hit the gym.

Thanks so much! It's a long process after a whole baby being there stretching everything to pieces but it is coming along. Starting my next cut soon .

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[elit3keraed]

Well what happened?


In the mean time take it easy on the parmesan

Wife left. Firearm went missing. Police were called and ransacked the place. Found all my raws but were actually chill about that.

A couple hours of nonstop texts mostly to destroy what little shred of dignity I had. Taking a day off work because I spent several hours with PD filling out paperwork only to be told I was going to lose my job if I didnt "refocus". Lost my car and my dog.

It may not seem like a whole lot but this sort of came out of left field and the lectures, hate messages and everything were brutal. Meant purely to just hurt me and touched on some pretty dark things in life.

Alot of shit was my wife finally snapping. Years of tren, stress and anger and an ever increasing depression manifesting. I got my car back and I asked her to keep the dog (dog loves her more than me anyways)but even with some "positive" I just cant shake the crushing sense of doom.

I mean, we've at least talked. We're living apart. Wife does want to work it out as a half day in the ER gave her a moment of clarity. But she knows we are in a fucked place so its basically a fucking wreck and neither of us know wtf to do (other thsn needing s fuck ton of therspy by individually and together).

 

[elit3keraed]

I should say this all comes on top of my life already being in a pretty crap place. Still dealing with the permanent problems left from my car accident. Broke as shit, blah blah blah. Honestly I dont hink I ever completely healed from by TBI cuz I still have moments where my reflection looks like a stranger.


So it wasnt even a "starting from a good spot, then going downhill" but more of a "heres rock bottom, let me get you a jackhammer"

 

[JimmyMcFistacuff]

I think you are doing an excellent job.



JMcF.

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[Intense]

Wife left. Firearm went missing. Police were called and ransacked the place. Found all my raws but were actually chill about that.

A couple hours of nonstop texts mostly to destroy what little shred of dignity I had. Taking a day off work because I spent several hours with PD filling out paperwork only to be told I was going to lose my job if I didnt "refocus". Lost my car and my dog.

It may not seem like a whole lot but this sort of came out of left field and the lectures, hate messages and everything were brutal. Meant purely to just hurt me and touched on some pretty dark things in life.

Alot of shit was my wife finally snapping. Years of tren, stress and anger and an ever increasing depression manifesting. I got my car back and I asked her to keep the dog (dog loves her more than me anyways)but even with some "positive" I just cant shake the crushing sense of doom.

I mean, we've at least talked. We're living apart. Wife does want to work it out as a half day in the ER gave her a moment of clarity. But she knows we are in a fucked place so its basically a fucking wreck and neither of us know wtf to do (other thsn needing s fuck ton of therspy by individually and together).

Wait, they were pretty chill about that? Do you know what she told the police that allowed them to search your house? You do realize how lucky you are in that regard don't you


I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would be fucking livid. Sounds like you need to cruise for a while and if she wants to work it out and you do as well then do just that and get into some counseling. Focus on making you better so you can be the best man you can be for yourself and her.

 

[elit3keraed]

Wait, they were pretty chill about that? Do you know what she told the police that allowed them to search your house? You do realize how lucky you are in that regard don't you


I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would be fucking livid. Sounds like you need to cruise for a while and if she wants to work it out and you do as well then do just that and get into some counseling. Focus on making you better so you can be the best man you can be for yourself and her.

She was making comments pertaining to her well being. I reported it and my gun missing. They seaeched the place to make sure it wasnt "misplaced". I know i am lucky as shit but it doesnt seem to make it better

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Managed to at least cook today. Guess Im seeing how it goes tomorrow

 

[kudegras]

I just turn on some good music and think about the good I am doing for my body working out and the shape I will be in after all the hard work pays off.

 

[Milford King]

Music has always been there for me. Just started playing again actually. Went out last night and saw one of my former band mates playing a show and felt great about it. Maybe you could find another hobby to take your mind off things...

 

[kudegras]

Also man really just use whatever bad has happened to you and use it to make yourself better. Learn from it and pray to God and keep working out and eating right and definitely do not drink, do not even drink occasionally. Good luck friend.

 

[mcreject83]

I doubt you will get any judgement here. We have all been through some shit, myself included. I was in the Marine Corps, saw and did some shit, wasn’t really the same after. A lot of booze and drugs. I used to get blackout drunk so I wouldn’t have crazy dreams. In the end the liquor, sitting around all day dwelling on shit made it worse, so like others said I set a goal. When I reached it, I set another. Been sober 3 years now. Surround yourself with family and keep yourself busy. Get a hobby i.e. weightlifting. Learn to play the guitar, built a fucking house. And most importantly, don’t give up hope.

 

[Montego]

Stay busy.
Don't go to the liquor store or buy beer.

You mentioned your house is a wreck. Clean it. I stress clean. When my wife and I separated I had the cleanest fucking apartment in history. I would dust, vacuum, mop, do laundry, clean the bathroom and kitchen every day. Did all my dishes by hand. It kept me busy.

I would go to the grocery store every day and get only what I needed for the next day so I could go back the next day.

Do cardio and listen to a podcast. Not only will it keep you busy and your mind on the radio, we all know exercise releases endorphins which will help with your mood.

The most important thing is to not be sedentary. This is the most important thing. Don't allow yourself to think.

 

[Little BamBam]

Great thread to start weve all been there. Im there now lol ive been gone for about to years and im back. What used to help me in the past was stay active on the forums my life was lifting eating and breathing of course help from some other things lol. occasionally id have to buy new gym gear, clothes, headphones, new music to keep me in the gym or give me a reason to be in there.
Breakups or home issues dont help unless your one of those lucky ones that can focus their anger back into the gym but i cant do that anymore so i just have to give myself the idgaf attitude and live it.
I need help to stay in the gym consistently right now so this is a great thread for my first post in 2 years
Thanks ASF

 

[Intense]

Stay busy.
Don't go to the liquor store or buy beer.

You mentioned your house is a wreck. Clean it. I stress clean. When my wife and I separated I had the cleanest fucking apartment in history. I would dust, vacuum, mop, do laundry, clean the bathroom and kitchen every day. Did all my dishes by hand. It kept me busy.

I would go to the grocery store every day and get only what I needed for the next day so I could go back the next day.

Do cardio and listen to a podcast. Not only will it keep you busy and your mind on the radio, we all know exercise releases endorphins which will help with your mood.

The most important thing is to not be sedentary. This is the most important thing. Don't allow yourself to think.

Basically what I would do as well. I can’t stress the DON’T go to the liquor store part enough.

 

[Milford King]

Drugs and alcohol are awful ways of coping with your problems. Squats, deadlifts,bench press and HIIT are way better ways of coping. There are no answers at the bottom of the bottle.

 

[gymprincess1989]

Hope all is going better. I was an alcoholic and it ruined my life forever. Now i use the gym and if i really get low I jog. This is how you will know I am down. I hate jogging but out on a nice nature path with some music to clear your thoughts does wonders. Deinking only pushes the problems not resolve em.

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[TX_hempknight]

Well what happened?


In the mean time take it easy on the parmesan

This is like the 10th time ive read this comment over the last few days, everytime i LOL at the take it easy on the parmesan part. not sure why, but it cracks me up.

My apologies for finding humor in this thread.

I personally get a little cranky if i dont go to the gym for a day or two during the week. So theres something definately therapeutic about lifting, for me anyways. Even on days i have zero interest in going, by the time Im lifting, feeling the pump, Im focused and ready to finish my workout. Thats what motivates me. Seeing the body recomp I have done over the last year and a half motivates me.

 

[elit3keraed]

This is like the 10th time ive read this comment over the last few days, everytime i LOL at the take it easy on the parmesan part. not sure why, but it cracks me up.

My apologies for finding humor in this thread.

I personally get a little cranky if i dont go to the gym for a day or two during the week. So theres something definately therapeutic about lifting, for me anyways. Even on days i have zero interest in going, by the time Im lifting, feeling the pump, Im focused and ready to finish my workout. Thats what motivates me. Seeing the body recomp I have done over the last year and a half motivates me.

Honestly I had a pretty solid laugh at the parmesan part. Ive always found humor in darkness. As i was sitting in the ER after neing stuck in a burning car. I responded to "Do you smoke" with "Well i WAS on fire so I guess i smoke". Nurse thought it was hilarious. Physician was mad

 

[Machinist9]

Honestly I had a pretty solid laugh at the parmesan part. Ive always found humor in darkness. As i was sitting in the ER after neing stuck in a burning car. I responded to "Do you smoke" with "Well i WAS on fire so I guess i smoke". Nurse thought it was hilarious. Physician was mad

Lmao. Thats a good one. I've been there more than once brother. Shit never ends and thing just keep getting worse. You tell god he's a fucking asshole for punching you in the dick over and over. Its like God dam when do i get a break. You finally decide you cant take it any more and you dont want to be awake any more. Fuck it just let me get some rest. I dont want to do this any more. I've had it planned out. Didn't put things in order like belle because i didn't give a shit.
Went to were i was going to do it and the place was gone. I know that dosen't make sense but if i explained you would understand. So i had to take a breath and not do it. I was a fucked up mess for months. Fuck i still am if i dwell on it to much. And music ha! Fuck that. Just made things worse in my head.i was just going through the motions when i worked out until i slowly started to get my head straight. Took a lot of time. I would listen to makevelly motivation videos. Dont think i spelled that right. Just couldn't do music.

I hope you can work things out with your woman. If she is willing to work on things she still loves you. So many people just get divorced. I've never done counseling but it probably works best if you dont hold back. Let all the crap out and you will feel lighter I'm sure. If it wasn't for my wife i would be dead. I hope everything works out brother. Its a hard life but we got to do it to get to the good stuff.
Sorry this is so long i had a ruff day.

 

[Vision]

How do you guys motivate yourselves at the absolute lowest? I'm not gonna lie, if it werent for being emotionslly dead from the tren I am taking i would have probably killed myself after this last weekend because of just how shit life went in a matter of hours.



My diet the last few days has been liquor, whatever my friend fed me while i was blackout drunk, a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of parmesan cheese thats in my fridge. I have no motivation to meal prep. No desire to even eat. Police ransacked my bedroom and I havent even bothered to clean up my room and have opted to sleep on top of whatever is on my bed.


I mean. "Break ups make bodybuilders" but how the fuck do you even find that spark to move.


Im sure Ill get a good number of "dont be a pussy" posts but figured maybe a fair number of you guys have been in similar spots and can relate somewhat to the spot I am in

The only "suggestions" I could provide will be; Whatever you're employing in your life that has you feeling the way you do, remove it, whether it's a thought process, a person, surroundings or even a substance (could be anything).. Insanity is repeating the same thing over and over, expecting a different result..The cliche "This to shall pass" is a real and holds true meaning, however if you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what your getting, things don't pass when we keep repeating the same behaviors (i.e trenbolone, get rid if it, it's doing you no justice but rather setting you up for the obvious failure).. This also applies for whatever issues, obstacles, chemicals, jobs, friendships/relationships, or merely a thought that is occupying free rent in your head (ex girl friend/guy friend or loved ones) no matter the circumstances or situation the general rule applies with a host of broad applications, nothing distinctive or accurate but rather refers to all practical experiences in all aspects with life, it's how the universe operates..

If it ain't working out for you, than you're doing it wrong.. You need to decide what isn't working out for you, but I can make a suggestion what could be the culprit.. Step back, breathe, and reevaluate your life and your current decision making..You'll never meet your target goals in life if you can't simply structure a healthy cognitive thought process & behavior..

Your first step is - Accountability...Begin from there!

Good luck and god bless..

 

[elit3keraed]

Lmao. Thats a good one. I've been there more than once brother. Shit never ends and thing just keep getting worse. You tell god he's a fucking asshole for punching you in the dick over and over. Its like God dam when do i get a break. You finally decide you cant take it any more and you dont want to be awake any more. Fuck it just let me get some rest. I dont want to do this any more. I've had it planned out. Didn't put things in order like belle because i didn't give a shit.
Went to were i was going to do it and the place was gone. I know that dosen't make sense but if i explained you would understand. So i had to take a breath and not do it. I was a fucked up mess for months. Fuck i still am if i dwell on it to much. And music ha! Fuck that. Just made things worse in my head.i was just going through the motions when i worked out until i slowly started to get my head straight. Took a lot of time. I would listen to makevelly motivation videos. Dont think i spelled that right. Just couldn't do music.

I hope you can work things out with your woman. If she is willing to work on things she still loves you. So many people just get divorced. I've never done counseling but it probably works best if you dont hold back. Let all the crap out and you will feel lighter I'm sure. If it wasn't for my wife i would be dead. I hope everything works out brother. Its a hard life but we got to do it to get to the good stuff.
Sorry this is so long i had a ruff day.

I think I understand this completely to be honest. At least...it hit really close to home from some shit in my past.

Im glad you made it through tho brother.