Big_Jimmy434
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Please Read this before you send random DM's to members asking for a reference to Ace Labs....
We admire the confidence it takes to approach a complete strangers and ask them to stake their hard-earned reputation on your behalf despite having no earthly idea who you are.
Unfortunately, that is not how references work.
A reference is not a promotional code, a free trial, or a magical credibility voucher that existing members hand out to anyone with Wi-Fi and an ambitious attitude.
When we provide a reference, we are saying, “We know this person. We trust this person. We believe this person is unlikely to embarrass themselves, us, or cause harm to a sponsor we respect.”
At present, all we know about you is:
That is not the foundation for a reference.
Asking us to vouch for you when we have never met you is like asking random people in a grocery store to co-sign your mortgage, babysit your children, and testify on a murder trial that you are of excellent character.
We are sure you may be a perfectly respectable individual. You may also be a cryptocurrency prophet, a professional bridge salesman, or someone who still believes “reply all” is an appropriate life strategy. We simply do not know.
And that is precisely the point.
The entire purpose of a reference is that it comes from someone who has actual experience with your character, conduct, and ability to function in civilized society without setting off alarm bells.
In our collective judgment, the only verified fact about you is that you are extraordinarily comfortable asking complete strangers to gamble their reputations for your convenience.
Although that level of confidence is impressive. It is not, however, transferable credibility.
Accordingly, we must decline your request.
We encourage you to do what every legitimate member has done before you: build genuine relationships, establish trust, and give someone a reason to say, “Yes, we know this person, and we are willing to risk our good name on them.”
Until then, we wish you the very best in your search for someone who has actually met you and can recommend you without crossing their fingers behind their back.
Sincerely,
The Existing Members Guardians of Credibility Protectors of Reputation And Apparently, the Last Remaining People Who Understand What a Reference Is
We admire the confidence it takes to approach a complete strangers and ask them to stake their hard-earned reputation on your behalf despite having no earthly idea who you are.
Unfortunately, that is not how references work.
A reference is not a promotional code, a free trial, or a magical credibility voucher that existing members hand out to anyone with Wi-Fi and an ambitious attitude.
When we provide a reference, we are saying, “We know this person. We trust this person. We believe this person is unlikely to embarrass themselves, us, or cause harm to a sponsor we respect.”
At present, all we know about you is:
- You possess internet access.
- You know how to send unsolicited messages.
- You have the confidence of a man trying to board a private jet by yelling, “Trust me, bro.”
- You have a inability to understand basic concepts
That is not the foundation for a reference.
Asking us to vouch for you when we have never met you is like asking random people in a grocery store to co-sign your mortgage, babysit your children, and testify on a murder trial that you are of excellent character.
We are sure you may be a perfectly respectable individual. You may also be a cryptocurrency prophet, a professional bridge salesman, or someone who still believes “reply all” is an appropriate life strategy. We simply do not know.
And that is precisely the point.
The entire purpose of a reference is that it comes from someone who has actual experience with your character, conduct, and ability to function in civilized society without setting off alarm bells.
In our collective judgment, the only verified fact about you is that you are extraordinarily comfortable asking complete strangers to gamble their reputations for your convenience.
Although that level of confidence is impressive. It is not, however, transferable credibility.
Accordingly, we must decline your request.
We encourage you to do what every legitimate member has done before you: build genuine relationships, establish trust, and give someone a reason to say, “Yes, we know this person, and we are willing to risk our good name on them.”
Until then, we wish you the very best in your search for someone who has actually met you and can recommend you without crossing their fingers behind their back.
Sincerely,
The Existing Members Guardians of Credibility Protectors of Reputation And Apparently, the Last Remaining People Who Understand What a Reference Is
It's a good start.
