Common misconception being fit

[Plate Rape]

A common misconception or a myth of being a fit man in today’s society is, especially in business and at work is if your fit then other men or people will respect you and see your hard work and discipline and treat you more positively because of it. I’m here to tell you that is complete bull crap. The reality is other men will treat you like crap because they see you as a threat and test you because they are jealous of you. If you’re just beginning this fitness journey be prepared for this. I’m sure there’s other veterans in here that can attest to this and tell some stories.
As I was making this post, I realize that I am not entirely correct on this misconception that there is a small minority of men, especially in my case, older men that will treat you more positively because of your aesthetics, but in my experience that is the minority.

 

[Meetketchup]

Completely disagree based on my life experiences.

I will speak in my fields of high-end real estate and sales that being fit it is an immediate flex, and people will tend to be intimidated by it. Combine that with confidence with a bit of cockiness and you enter each encounter with a plus already in your corner.

First impressions are everything and in today's society of obesity and people out of shape having low self-esteem, it's a win.

 

[Chemicalreaction]

Completely disagree based on my life experiences.

I will speak in my fields of high-end real estate and sales that being fit it is an immediate flex, and people will tend to be intimidated by it. Combine that with confidence with a bit of cockiness and you enter each encounter with a plus already in your corner.

First impressions are everything and in today's society of obesity and people out of shape having low self-esteem, it's a win.

This

 

[OlePhart]

I wouldn't call myself a "bodybuilder". I came here initially for biohacking because of health issues. I'm not a shining example of "fit" but since I've been here I have a made a good bit of improvement from where I was. People notice and some say something about it. I've had the opportunity on several occasions to have lengthy in depth discussions with people about their health and some, not all, have buckled down and changed the way they live. I won't lie, that I could make a difference because of the way I live makes me feel great. I've had nothing but positive experiences since I started this journey so, not being argumentative, I would have to disagree. That's MY experience so far.

 

[Omoplata]

First impressions are everything and in today's society of obesity and people out of shape having low self-esteem, it's a win.

I literally have seen how obese people are looked over at companies. It’s vindicating.

 

[Nood]

I feel they just look at me and assume I’m on steroids

 

[Swilly91]

I feel they just look at me and assume I’m on steroids

Me, every time I walk past you

 

[Meetketchup]

I literally have seen how obese people are looked over at companies. It’s vindicating.

It happens all the time. Better looking/in shape people are more likely to get a position than the contrary. This is basic stuff.

 

[Big_Jimmy434]

Completely disagree based on my life experiences

Ditto.

I've been on both ends of the spectrum and I completely disagree with the original "misconception." I work in a position where I manage construction professionals, and I can attest that being in shape commands more respect. The tons of research also supports this.

It really sounds more like they just dont respect you in general.

 

[elit3keraed]

Only time I’ve EVER been looked at negatively for being fit is by the some fat, nutty rainbow haired alphabet mafia “everything that I don’t have or agree with is fascist” types (i live in Cali soooo)


When I can back from disability, my coworkers gave me shit cuz I was skinny (170 at 6’1 is anorexic basically lol) but it was in good fun cuz they were all 50lbs heavier than when I left lol. Blew up to 200 and they constantly talk to me and ask me questions.

Got a few guys who are actually losing weight and trying to do better and have openly admitted they “blame” me (we get offered a LOT of free food at our job by customers so 70% of our team is other obese or on their way to obese so it’s just “part of the job”)


Sucks that your experience is negative OP but I’d look at the type of folks who are giving you these experiences because I’d wager either A…they’re not people ANYONE wants to be around with to begin with…the bitter and miserable types who hate everything…or B it’s not your level of fit that’s the problem it’s something else and they’re just using your fitness as a scapegoat goat

 

[Uzisuicide]

Being is shape has been a net positive for me in the workplace and elswhere. The only people who will think negatively of you because you are fit are people who are dissatisfied with themselves. A plurality of people are slobs. Even on the beach, it isn't difficult being a top 5% guy.

 

[Wardamn]

A common misconception or a myth of being a fit man in today’s society is, especially in business and at work is if your fit then other men or people will respect you and see your hard work and discipline and treat you more positively because of it. I’m here to tell you that is complete bull crap. The reality is other men will treat you like crap because they see you as a threat and test you because they are jealous of you. If you’re just beginning this fitness journey be prepared for this. I’m sure there’s other veterans in here that can attest to this and tell some stories.
As I was making this post, I realize that I am not entirely correct on this misconception that there is a small minority of men, especially in my case, older men that will treat you more positively because of your aesthetics, but in my experience that is the minority.

I personally haven't found this to be true.

 

[RandomLifter]

Having been 130lbs without muscle and now near 200lbs with muscle…I think people treat you with more respect, tbh.

 

[Durro NoHurtNoBigShirt]

I have received both positive and negative more of the positive than negative. And I told that to my nephew when he started working out some years ago, like OP Plate Rape said, there will be some jealous people out there and you will get tested from time to time and use your head and don’t let it bother you.

 

[floridaman1984]

I've been on both ends of the spectrum on this. Fat ass obese to in shape now. Definitely more positives to being in shape personal life wise and work wise.

 

[elit3keraed]

I've been on both ends of the spectrum on this. Fat ass obese to in shape now. Definitely more positives to being in shape personal life wise and work wise.

I always knew you were on the spectrum

 

[BBruce]

lol, nobody is testing me

 

[floridaman1984]

I always knew you were on the spectrum

Its how I lock in.

 

[Meetketchup]

In "general" as someone who has interviewed many people and seeing the outcomes you tend to notice that fitness is one of the best indicators of consciousness, consistency, dependability, willingness to work hard and deal with adversity. Of course there are outliers, but in general it's a good tell. If you have little to no self-control over yourself that will usually be an issue amongst working with others who don't have that issue.

 

[OlePhart]

I feel they just look at me and assume I’m on steroids

Is it still assuming if it's true?

 

[dcdogz]

this could not be further from the truth. especially in todays day and age.
as someone who was super obese and now isnt, the way i am treated is NIGHT and day.

 

[Nood]

Is it still assuming if it's true?

I IDENTIFY as Natty

 

[Chemicalreaction]

I feel they just look at me and assume I’m on steroids

I hope they see me and think steroids if not I'm gonna feel shamed

 

[Plate Rape]

Only time I’ve EVER been looked at negatively for being fit is by the some fat, nutty rainbow haired alphabet mafia “everything that I don’t have or agree with is fascist” types (i live in Cali soooo)


When I can back from disability, my coworkers gave me shit cuz I was skinny (170 at 6’1 is anorexic basically lol) but it was in good fun cuz they were all 50lbs heavier than when I left lol. Blew up to 200 and they constantly talk to me and ask me questions.

Got a few guys who are actually losing weight and trying to do better and have openly admitted they “blame” me (we get offered a LOT of free food at our job by customers so 70% of our team is other obese or on their way to obese so it’s just “part of the job”)


Sucks that your experience is negative OP but I’d look at the type of folks who are giving you these experiences because I’d wager either A…they’re not people ANYONE wants to be around with to begin with…the bitter and miserable types who hate everything…or B it’s not your level of fit that’s the problem it’s something else and they’re just using your fitness as a scapegoat goat

You hit the nail on the head. About 80% of the tecs I work with are obese and somewhat lazy, and just have an overall negative attitude about most things. I am the opposite of that and I do believe they take out stuff on me because they’re dissatisfied with themselves. I think I was just venting this morning because of recent events at the workplace.
I do love it when a customer calls in and forgets my name and they describe me as the “buff” guy to my coworkers. Sometimes I just get tired of people who wake up every day pissed off at the world for no reason at all. I guess I just have to be that positive influence the best I can to them without showing frustration.

 

[elit3keraed]

You hit the nail on the head. About 80% of the tecs I work with are obese and somewhat lazy, and just have an overall negative attitude about most things. I am the opposite of that and I do believe they take out stuff on me because they’re dissatisfied with themselves. I think I was just venting this morning because of recent events at the workplace.
I do love it when a customer calls in and forgets my name and they describe me as the “buff” guy to my coworkers. Sometimes I just get tired of people who wake up every day pissed off at the world for no reason at all. I guess I just have to be that positive influence the best I can to them without showing frustration.

lol yea your coworkers will make life shit when they’re shit lol.

I enjoy when the bitter people talk shit because you know that if you wanted you could make them include your name at the top of their goodbye letter .

I know I’m doing the right thing when the fatties try to belittle me. Them telling me they’d rather eat and “enjoy life” when they’ll never know what it’s like to see abs in the mirror is like when a chick tries to say “men aren’t needed I didn’t have a dad and I am perfectly happy and fine”….no you just don’t know what you never had or will have and how much better it is

 

[LegionF]

You hit the nail on the head. About 80% of the tecs I work with are obese and somewhat lazy, and just have an overall negative attitude about most things. I am the opposite of that and I do believe they take out stuff on me because they’re dissatisfied with themselves. I think I was just venting this morning because of recent events at the workplace.
I do love it when a customer calls in and forgets my name and they describe me as the “buff” guy to my coworkers. Sometimes I just get tired of people who wake up every day pissed off at the world for no reason at all. I guess I just have to be that positive influence the best I can to them without showing frustration.

I think theres a bit of both worlds. I went from defense aerospace to defense tech and the culture amongst many (not all) tech people is that theyre somehow more authentic or whatever because they look like shit and dress like shit. In aerospace it was more automatic that taking care of yourself and your presentation was a statement of seriousness and capability.

Some people are just fucking dumb

 

[Omoplata]

Do what Mike Tyson does. Punch them in the face.

 

[01dragonslayer]

Women have what is called the 'Pretty Privilege' which stems from the Halo effect.

Attractive women often receive more favorable, polite, and lenient everyday treatment due to a cognitive bias known as the halo effect, though this does not automatically translate to deep or genuine respect.

They generally experience increased patience, more smiles, and a greater benefit of the doubt in routine social interactions.

Studies suggest attractive people can enjoy advantages in hiring, perceived productivity, and promotional opportunities.

 

[Halfi]

I don’t agree. At all

I have never been tested by another man because I’m in shape lol In fact I get praise and respect. It’s difficult to not only get in shape but STAY in shape and I feel like people that I have crossed paths with recognize that. They see hard work and consistancy paying off in real life

And from an employee standpoint at work… you will have 1 up on most people. If an employer or your supervisor see your able to take care of your self, have a routine that u follow religiously, I think your more inclined to be put in a higher paying position. No solely because u work out but because you have the mind set to do better, follow a plan. And execute.

 

[Milford King]

“Fit” or “jacked” guys that are straight up disrespected are usually disrespected because they are lazy, or social awkward or quite possibly just a shitty person. Just because you are fit doesn’t mean you automatically deserve respect.

Respect is earned. You only earn respect through how you carry yourself through your daily life.

Being fit and jacked, if you’re not a pile of shit, will be an extremely positive experience for you as an individual and you as a collective.

Your personality is still pretty much how your judged by everyone. If you think getting jacked up on roids is going to command respect while being a lazy, cocky douchbag …

Well you’re going to be a jacked up dude that no one likes.

Introspection is a handy tool.