Would you give a friend unsolicited advise?

[Wespipes83]

So i have a friend. Him and his wife are just getting into lifting. He asks me for advice on his form and when to start gear food all that stuff and listens. BUT his wife is the issue. Shes 3 months in and completely ego lifting. Form is just so bad i reallty think shes gonna hurt herself, She took a personal training course, decided to take anavar and even taking a very tiny dose of test. Shes moving decent weight for a tiny chic but shes gonna blow a knee or really hurt her back. We live on opposite sides of the country so i only see the vids she post and i cringe everytime i see them. Would you give advise or let her learn on her own?

 

[Bigdog6.7]

I would give advice.. I don't ever want someone to hurt themselves.. especially friends..

 

[samgraves82]

Tell her but find a way to not insult. Like, " hey you'd add 20lbs to that if ya tweeked ur feet this way or pulled ur shoulders back." See if she listens the first time and if not leave it be.

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[rdm]

Remind her that she'll be lifting no weights if she's injured.

 

[01dragonslayer]

So i have a friend. Him and his wife are just getting into lifting. He asks me for advice on his form and when to start gear food all that stuff and listens. BUT his wife is the issue. Shes 3 months in and completely ego lifting. Form is just so bad i reallty think shes gonna hurt herself, She took a personal training course, decided to take anavar and even taking a very tiny dose of test. Shes moving decent weight for a tiny chic but shes gonna blow a knee or really hurt her back. We live on opposite sides of the country so i only see the vids she post and i cringe everytime i see them. Would you give advise or let her learn on her own?

I've learned from experience especially with a woman don't give advice unless she asks for it.

It's probably not the right answers but giving advice to a woman that you don't know can be ... confrontational? Even though your intentions are good it will be most likely taken the wrong way.

 

[Ziath11]

Just getting into lifting and already on Anavar and test as a female 😬. Personally I wouldn’t say anything because it sounds like she has zero care for what anyone thinks. Those consequences will hit her soon enough and hopefully she’ll change.

 

[wesley_swolle]

Imo, this is something the husband should be doing. Hard pass for me

 

[Bob West]

I would probably tell the husband to tell her.

 

[Multislacking]

Imo, this is something the husband should be doing. Hard pass for me

A real bro would take the fall and the heat for telling her she's doing it wrong.

In all seriousness though, free advice is usually taken for it's value...which is usually nothing to the person who didn't pay for it.

 

[mass gain]

So i have a friend. Him and his wife are just getting into lifting. He asks me for advice on his form and when to start gear food all that stuff and listens. BUT his wife is the issue. Shes 3 months in and completely ego lifting. Form is just so bad i reallty think shes gonna hurt herself, She took a personal training course, decided to take anavar and even taking a very tiny dose of test. Shes moving decent weight for a tiny chic but shes gonna blow a knee or really hurt her back. We live on opposite sides of the country so i only see the vids she post and i cringe everytime i see them. Would you give advise or let her learn on her own?

Of course you give advice unless your enemy thinks he is your friend

Edit: Just looked at all responses. I guess I should say I def would. I can see the argument for not giving it tho.

 

[Astro95]

3 months into lifting, already on anavar and test. Doesn’t seem the type to listen or follow advice as it is. Also, if her ego lifting and bad form is that blatant, I’d imagine either 1 of 2 things, either her husband doesn’t care, so if he doesn’t why would you or 2 he’s already told her something and she doesn’t listen to him which again, if she doesn’t listen to him why would she listen to you right? I understand the concern, but something I’d personally would stay out of.

Also, getting injured at the gym is like failing in life. It’s part of the journey. Best we can hope for is that people are smart enough to learn from the 1st time.

 

[Battousai]

Most people don't listen.

 

[YourMuscleShop]

It's generally best to avoid giving unsolicited advice unless it's a matter of urgency or safety. Respect your friend's autonomy and boundaries.

Libby

 

[Milford King]

Nah bro.


You’re his friend. Not hers. Always remember that. If they split up tomorrow, who would you stay in contact with?

Keep your lips closed or she’ll make your friend go bye bye.

 

[JKUR2903]

I am in the don’t say a thing camp. That little experience and on gear to me says, “can’t tell me nothing’”

 

[Milford King]

Actually…. I found the obvious solution.

Tell him and her to join ASF… we’ll set her straight and you and your friend can look innocent in all of it. You can even stage it like your sticking up for her and look like the hero and she can still get the advice she needs.

Advice like “drop the test and run 3 grams of tren”

Or advice like “eat bagels and cream cheese every morning and don’t do cardio ever”


Or even “girls should take dbol”

Lol I’m kidding with the advice stuff. We will ALL CAPS her on here and she’ll start doing shit the right way.

Scouts honor.

 

[Wespipes83]

Actually…. I found the obvious solution.

Tell him and her to join ASF… we’ll set her straight and you and your friend can look innocent in all of it. You can even stage it like your sticking up for her and look like the hero and she can still get the advice she needs.

Advice like “drop the test and run 3 grams of tren”

Or advice like “eat bagels and cream cheese every morning and don’t do cardio ever”


Or even “girls should take dbol”

Lol I’m kidding with the advice stuff. We will ALL CAPS her on here and she’ll start doing shit the right way.

Scouts honor.

I like the way you think!

 

[BodybuilderZepp]

I would give advise. But she will learn the hard way because most likely she won’t listen.

 

[GYMnTONIC]

I never give unsolicited advice. Even if I see someone that is doing it completely wrong

I have pulled a bar off someones chest more times then I can count that has failed to use a spotter and gets stuck

I have seen guys put 225lbs on the bar that can't even do 135 and I have seen it go left to right, left to right and dump the plates all over the floor and leave the kid with the empty 45lb bar in his hand. I refuse to help them pickup the weights though. Bc that takes a true dumbass to accomplish such a feat, and so I feel embarrassment and shame are their punishment

 

[Wardamn]

If she is a friend I would help her out.

 

[mass gain]

Nah bro.


You’re his friend. Not hers. Always remember that. If they split up tomorrow, who would you stay in contact with?

Keep your lips closed or she’ll make your friend go bye bye.

You said lips.
What if he wants to poke his friends girl though? Should he directly give her the advice before or after he sticks it in?

 

[Deeman]

Its a hard position to be in. Some people are open to tips yet others have it stuck in their head that its My way or the highway.

 

[Draig]

Imo, I would keep my opinions to myself, unless asked of course.



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[CoffeeS]

I know who I can give advice to and when. Others, I won't give up info unless asked. then phrase it in a way that is only an opinion. I am not a know it all. I learn every day. Sometimes it takes a hammer to get it through my thick skull

 

[mass gain]

Its a hard position to be in. Some people are open to tips yet others have it stuck in their head that its My way or the highway.

I don't know if you did this on purpose but
Hard, open, tips, stuck and head

 

[Milford King]

I don't know if you did this on purpose but
Hard, open, tips, stuck and head

Hershey highway

 

[AR-15]

I gave up trying to give advice a long time ago to just anyone. Family and friends ofcourse I will but everyone else can suck it. I’m kinda burnt out on the whole giving advice thing. Do you have any idea how many times I get ask - “What would you do if I grabbed you here or what would you do if someone came up behind you and grabbed you like this”. Shit gets exhausting after awhile especially the times where I break down and do give advice and then immediately I get the “Why wouldn’t you do this or that instead?” It’s like really motherfucker!!!! I just took the time to give you advice that you ask for and now all of a sudden you’re the expert? Lol

 

[Deeman]

I don't know if you did this on purpose but
Hard, open, tips, stuck and head

Hmm 🤬