Retirement and life after career

[oldbull]

This guy had me hooked

they say it doesn’t matter to them but it 1000% does. Took my wife about 9 months to completely loose all respect for me after I had been hurt for awhile and she basically became the main bread winner. Never got the respect back. I’m not sure what else I could have done but it’s whatever at this point. Fuck her. I’m not above sending some of our home videos to her family if needed. I never liked her brother and father either btw. I might beat their asses too just to piss her off.

I know it’s childish but I don’t care.

It’s not worth getting mad at her about, it’s just a matter of evolutionary biology, just like we can’t help wanting to fuck other women (even if we don’t do it.)

Female humans have evolved to want a protector/provider. My guess is that with your weight lifting and fighting, you check that first box pretty easily. It sucks that you got hurt and that affected your work, and thus your relationship with your wife. I’m not going to tell you I know what you should do, but hopefully you can figure out a way to impress her in that way again.

My wife admires me for being big and strong (by normal standards, not necessarily the behemoths on here) and bringing home a paycheck all these years (especially when I worked three jobs to pay off the house) but I have fucked some things up for myself with my lack of hygiene. She urges me to wash more and I can tell I gross her out if I haven’t washed for a long time and been wearing the same clothes for days. I should really do a better job about that shit, but since I started working from home and my sex drive has largely diminished (due to quitting booze, as I’ve explained) it just seems like more effort than it’s worth.

Long story short, men can sabotage ourselves, either inadvertently or not, but hopefully can work our way back in the wives’ good graces. My guess is you would be able to if you get the money shit figured out. Not that I am getting on a high horse in any way, just going by your own description of the circumstances.

God knows we put up with enough of the wives’ bullshit, we should get some credit, lol. They all have ways of getting annoying, that’s evolutionary biology too. They tend to the nest, and set high standards, and thus expect us to read their minds about shit like how to hang up the towels or stack the dishware or whatever.

Another riskier method is to make your old lady jealous. Not like she is convinced you are cheating, but find a way for her to find out a younger attractive woman is paying you attention. Could be as simple as mildly flirting with the barista while you guys are getting coffee.

I know a lot of people would say this is destructive/evil/manipulative, but that is just if you take it too far. I’m not talking lipstick on your collar, because that could set off an escalation of infidelity.

Create just enough jealousy for plausible deniability. “You’re crazy, that girl was not flirting with me…” Mind you, this barista or other chick does not have to be mind blowingly hot. The point is to remind the wife you are still a merchantable commodity…

 

[BigPerv]

I’m an open book bro. I made my money as a project manager for a specialty contractor. It was insanely stressful. Crazy hours. Either on an airplane every week or relocating for my projects. I was really good at my job and took every opportunity that other more senior people couldn’t because they had families etc. I started making money just as the recession hit, so it was an excellent time to invest. Trust me my lifestyle is quite minimal when it comes to spending. I drive a 2006 honda crv haha. Pussy magnet.

Thank you

An '06 CRV and you could be rolling in an '26 Escalade
Damn...I admire that tbh. I drive a Tesla Model Y, nothing fancy by any means, but not flashy. I drove an '02 Volvo for a couple years even when I could've been in something much nicer but convinced myself that the $3-500 I was saving in a car payment, should go right into the S&P. I really wish I would've bought property though.

When/where did you decide enough was enough and you were ready to retire, go minimalist? I think you said you live in the guesthouse of one of your investment properties now?