Divorce and cycle

[Laxman3221]

I started a new cycle on Sunday and the wife said she sent the paperwork in for arbitration on Monday night. So I was two days in.

Should I just bail on the cycle while going through this?

I know some of you guys have experience.

Thanks.

 

[Battousai]

Congratulations on being a free man.

 

[Laxman3221]

Congratulations on being a free man.

I’d rather stay married. 29.5 years married and 35 years together.

Empty nest and finds out she’s not happy.

 

[Battousai]

I’d rather stay married. 29.5 years married and 35 years together.

Empty nest and finds out she’s not happy.

If that's the way she feels then move on. Get jacked and get a 25 year old girlfriend.

 

[Milford King]

I’d rather stay married. 29.5 years married and 35 years together.

Empty nest and finds out she’s not happy.

That sucks….

No grandkids?

Stay on cycle and get some comfort snatch

 

[hoyle21]

I’d bail on the cycle. This is gonna be hard for you to handle without hyped up emotions. Youve been married a long time so this is going to a big adjustment, and typically man…….A woman at that age isn’t looking to be alone, the odds are she found your replacement.

It’s gonna be hard to not lose your shit, but you’ll get through, probably do better than her in the long run. Just stay focused and protect yourself and money.


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[PlatePusher]

Be smart. Some products makes us more aggressive. I remember one guy can’t remember here recently going through this and she ratted him
Out turns out he was on prescribed on TRT with a script. Got her lol.


Maybe just crusie to til you get through this difficult time.
Don’t want to make things worse in these times. Law, kids or restraining orders or whatever.
Look at someone wrong and they want to lock you up.

 

[dcdogz]

that sucks man, but youre a dude you can get a young girl she cant.
keep going man, trickle truth will come, id do just trt or something.

 

[Sirchon]

Yes, if it turns ugly she'll use it against you.

 

[tommygunz]

I’d bail on the cycle. This is gonna be hard for you to handle without hyped up emotions. Youve been married a long time so this is going to a big adjustment, and typically man…….A woman at that age isn’t looking to be alone, the odds are she found your replacement.

It’s gonna be hard to not lose your shit, but you’ll get through, probably do better than her in the long run. Just stay focused and protect yourself and money.


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Either that or jump on tren and get a restraining order, lose your retirement and any further income.
Married 29.5 years you’re gonna be paying her for life anyway. May as well go down in flames

 

[Laxman3221]

I’d bail on the cycle. This is gonna be hard for you to handle without hyped up emotions. Youve been married a long time so this is going to a big adjustment, and typically man…….A woman at that age isn’t looking to be alone, the odds are she found your replacement.

It’s gonna be hard to not lose your shit, but you’ll get through, probably do better than her in the long run. Just stay focused and protect yourself and money.


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No other man. She lost the sex drive too. Wouldn’t get hormones tested.

 

[Thechemicals]

She has no sex drive, doesn't have another man to replace you, and married 30 years....and she wants to leave you. Weird or you did something really bad.

Yeah get off cycle. I dont even trust you.

 

[Glycomann]

Sounds like she's going through the change. There's probably at least a 1/2 dozen things you could discuss that might pull her back.

 

[greco]

If that's the way she feels then move on. Get jacked and get a 25 year old girlfriend.

On paper and theoretically, this is an outstanding answer and it is THE answer... if you, @Laxman3221 were a trained Stoic guru, and could both manage and control all your emotions, and let go of all the things beyond your control. In that case, "get jacked and get a gf" is the perfect answer. Unfortunately, the world doesn't work that way, and I'm guessing you are not a transcendent Stoic guru (no offense if you are).

You're about to hurt, badly, and if that wasn't bad enough, someone is going to pour salt in the wounds. Nothing is going to stop that, and you need to face that clear-headed. In my opinion, the last thing you want to do is pour fuel (gear) on that fire or cloud your judgement.

With that said, I support a form of what @Battousai said, but I'd say first get and stay super clean, get focused, stay natural, and work on yourself naturally. You're going to do a lot of soul-searching for quite some time. You will have to re-find yourself, whether you like it or not. You can't find yourself when we all know gear twists all perceptions, physical and mental. Get strong and focused on your own so you know who you are, not who the gear is. Get to the other side of this, confident and strong in yourself, truly knowing who you are without her. Then get jacked and get a gf.

Good luck

 

[Wardamn]

Take some test and hit the gym. Use it as an outlet.

 

[greco]

Sounds like she's going through the change. There's probably at least a 1/2 dozen things you could discuss that might pull her back.

As someone married 25 years, with similar problems narrowly avoided, I agree, sounds like she's going through the change. Mine also "changed," lost all interest in sex, gained 50-pounds, and turned into a depressing, flaming bitch. We had many go-arounds, until I finally packed her bags and told her get HRT or get the fuck out. Like the OP, I also did not want her to go, not at all, but when they change, they change. They aren't the same person. I faced that and decided, she was already gone, so I had nothing to lose.

When mine got on HRT, the whole world changed. She's down 25-pounds so far, 25 to go, sex is back on the table, she's training again, competing again, and she can see the Sun actually does still shine. I'm not going to say I'm out of the woods, I'm not stupid, but holy shit HRT is close to a miracle cure. The problem is, they can't see the cure when they are so depressed and detached from reality. Fortunately, mine didn't want to go, so unlike the OP, I had leverage. However, I am sure without HRT, it was over one way or the other.

I feel for the OP, it's a horrible place to be, especially when you know it's fixable and the other person won't listen. Rough place to be.

 

[Battousai]

Women these days are taught they deserve even more no matter what. My cousin is a few years older than me, probably early 40's. Dude still looks amazing, perfect chiseled face, he could literally model, 6'1", jacked, consistently lifted weights for the past 20 years, great career and his wife recently initiated a divorce. She is fat and ugly. I remember when I first saw her I was like wtf is he doing with this chick. These women will get a dosing of reality real quick when they see what else is in the dating pool for an overweight middle aged single mom.

 

[hoyle21]

Women these days are taught they deserve even more no matter what. My cousin is a few years older than me, probably early 40's. Dude still looks amazing, perfect chiseled face, he could literally model, 6'1", jacked, consistently lifted weights for the past 20 years, great career and his wife recently initiated a divorce. She is fat and ugly. I remember when I first saw her I was like wtf is he doing with this chick. These women will get a dosing of reality real quick when they see what else is in the dating pool for an overweight middle aged single mom.

This is the reason so many younger men are refusing marriages. There just isn’t enough of an upside to counter the negative. Be married and happy for 25-30 and one day she says I’m out and takes half your shit for no reason. Just not worth it.


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[Battousai]

This is the reason so many younger men are refusing marriages. There just isn’t enough of an upside to counter the negative. Be married and happy for 25-30 and one day she says I’m out and takes half your shit for no reason. Just not worth it.


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Exactly. I don't see any upside to marriage. I've worked hard for my money and investing it, not doing all that just to have it taken away one day. Women are so unpredictable; I know all about how they drastically change how they feel about you. Never again will I let them use their guilt tripping to pull me back in only to fuck me over, lol.

 

[Swole76]

If that's the way she feels then move on. Get jacked and get a 25 year old girlfriend.

EXACTLY what I was thinking.

 

[Swole76]

Take some test and hit the gym. Use it as an outlet.

And Mast and Provi. Chicks will all start looking better to you and if you look at least somewhat jacked compared to all the pussy men out there you’ll get more attention from girls.

 

[Laxman3221]

She has no sex drive, doesn't have another man to replace you, and married 30 years....and she wants to leave you. Weird or you did something really bad.

Yeah get off cycle. I dont even trust you.

No, didn’t do anything bad. She has said that repeatedly that it’s not my fault. It her and how she feels.

 

[heavyiron]

I would drop everything except Test. T won't make you lose your cool but something like Tren will for sure. After that many years I would want to salvage the relationship but its entirely up to you.

What is your read on her wanting arbitration?

 

[selfmademonster]

Either that or jump on tren and get a restraining order, lose your retirement and any further income.
Married 29.5 years you’re gonna be paying her for life anyway. May as well go down in flames

Oh man this made me think of being in county years ago on the night my marriage ended . Burn it all down

 

[Astro95]

Not gonna give relationship advice, because I have no where near the qualifications to give advice on a 30+ year relationship, I’ll leave that for the OGs that been there. Far as the cycle I would continue just don’t run mentally distorting compounds like tren or Deca. Remember the cycle is for yourself, to better, improve yourself and it’s about to be a one man show shortly, so I’d start working.

 

[Jbswole40]

Sounds like she wanted it before the cycle, that's just an excuse, I can't tell u what to do..it's hard to say what I'd do.thats a long time .

 

[Jbswole40]

Not gonna give relationship advice, because I have no where near the qualifications to give advice on a 30+ year relationship, I’ll leave that for the OGs that been there. Far as the cycle I would continue just don’t run mentally distorting compounds like tren or Deca. Remember the cycle is for yourself, to better, improve yourself and it’s about to be a one man show shortly, so I’d start working.

I didn't recognize u without the avatar...I agree I'm the last that should be giving advice, I split with my woman and get back together a few times a day

 

[tommygunz]

I joke around a lot but that’s all it is.

You’ve been married over 29 years and with her for 35 you say? You also said empty nest. So I’m assuming the kids are gone and with the above numbers, a little math says she’s 50ish??

She’s perimenopause and her hormones are changing. Women aren’t like men, a little test and we’re g2g. Women should hold off on hormone therapy and let nature run its course. It’s healthier for them. She will come around, probably not when your around.

Normally I’d recommend therapy for a couple, helped me with the current wife. My first wife? NO. I was married for 23 years, right out of high school and had a couple kids then. The kids moved out and we really had nothing left in common. I started the divorce and she didn’t want it. Marriage had become a mundane job that I hated. It happens.
If she’s done, she’s done. Try to stay amicable and you’ll get through it. You will eventually have another life.

 

[tommygunz]

Good luck brother.

 

[Thechemicals]

I'm not in the school of thought that you can make a woman change her mind when.she is ready to go, at the very best that just buys you time.

The scariest thing about women for me is that when they are ready to go, they are 100% ready. Even though *The logic is bad, the reasoning is bad, and it could just be the dumbest mistake of their life but they are committed to it.

I have raised a couple of girls myself, nieces. They as teens decided when they are.going to leave their bfs months in advance sometimes. They'd tell me they would do it after a holiday or birthday so they could enjoy that time with them. I remember being disgusted by that brain pattern. It is a typical female thought process.

Anyway the point is she planned months in advance to leave you.mayne longer, years. She wants this and winning her back is not winning her heart back,.just her mind for a while