COPS KNOCKING 5AM

[MonsterMaker]

Can't blame God for your own actions, that's ridiculous, Proverbs 19:3 states
"A man's foolishness ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the LORD". Start taking some accountability, that's the only way change happens homie.

It was just a figure of speech man. I’m not blaming a man I don’t believe in… I just can’t believe I met someone like this let alone married her… how many people you know that are a violent sociopath? It’s just bizarre that’s my only point.


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[Ogre]

"Refuse to talk"

Good move.

Sorry to hear about the mess. You need a lawyer. Get someone on your side that can help you!

 

[Koolio]

When I married my ex in 2003 I had no idea that her father was supporting her lifestyle...we married shortly after he died...she ran up over $50k in credit card bills...$25k was in late fees...though she was working she had virtually no money coming in because her wages were being garnished for loans from finance companies...we/I had just bought a $300k home with a $100k mortgage over 15 years...she almost bankrupted me.,..I got out of that marriage clean and easy in 2007...for the next 10 years she went back to borrowing money, not paying it back and having her wages garnished....she had 3 cars repossessed....I got calls from debt collectors for years....she finally got remarried...thank God!....needless to say I went off like a volcano a few times...nothing stopped her spendaholic behavior...

 

[MonsterMaker]

When I married my ex in 2003 I had no idea that her father was supporting her lifestyle...we married shortly after he died...she ran up over $50k in credit card bills...$25k was in late fees...though she was working she had virtually no money coming in because her wages were being garnished for loans from finance companies...we/I had just bought a $300k home with a $100k mortgage over 15 years...she almost bankrupted me.,..I got out of that marriage clean and easy in 2007...for the next 10 years she went back to borrowing money, not paying it back and having her wages garnished....she had 3 cars repossessed....I got calls from debt collectors for years....she finally got remarried...thank God!....needless to say I went off like a volcano a few times...nothing stopped her spendaholic behavior...

I get it man! My issues are very different but still both are great examples of betrayal/dishonesty. My ex was actually abusing me covertly VIA drugs stolen from her place of work. Took me almost a year before I even caught on. The drugs she was giving me were causing me seizures and some psychotic/out of my head symptoms too.

I actually felt so good to have her her because I just thighs I got delt a shit deck of cards later in life and I was just happy to have her “support” through it all. She would lay by my bedside in the hospital just balling and trying to comfort me… little did I know she was the reason I was in the hospital.

That shit has really affected me and I’m so angry from it all. It’s literally destroying me. I just don’t know how I can forgive her for it. And if I can’t forgive her for it I don’t know how I’ll ever stop treating her like shit. She got a way with it and I just can’t let that happen…

Atleast that’s the thought that’s been making me behave this way for the last 2-3 years… I need to figure this out.


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[TheOldJJdigs]

Thanks so much for writing that up I like that you roll from the heart man I really appreciate that I hope I have a similar end in here. I do finally feel like I can just stop worrying about pussy it’s just causing so many problems right now so it’s time to do what you did years ago. That last bit you said they’re about loving yourself that’s a huge problem with my man I don’t think I do not in the slightest.

I’m just gonna focus on my kids and myself before I end up losing them too.


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Exactly man… your last sentence needs to be your number one priority or what you should have front and center of your mind. And not to be “the guy with all the answers” because I’m not… however the quote often used in situations like this is that you out your oxygen mask on first because you can’t help anyone if you do them first. All I mean is yes your kids need to be the priority however keep yourself front and center. Those children need you… and I know you said you don’t know how to love yourself. That’s just because you’ve been doing the same thing over and over. Now that you have this on the forefront you’ll start your own process man. I had no idea what I was doing and I definitely didn’t know the first thing about what we’re talking about now.

Head on straight…. If you watch a lot of YT videos or constantly need to be doing something.. try taking a break from it. It acts as the same distraction. You need to be in the moment with some of these thoughts. Pen and paper… a journal of sorts… sounds silly but they’re all steps you’ll need to take. I used a therapist (it sounds like you found someone already and you’ve been going so that’s great). I’ll be very honest with you… if you use alcohol or rec drugs and you’re doing therapy it’s going to be a complete waste. If anyone knows anything about therapy it’s about talking and venting yes but it’s about dealing with some
issues you have stemming from your childhood and other aspects of your life. And alcohol and drugs just numb us right? so anyone who goes into therapy and has a session and leaving that session if we just num ourselves and not feel those sometimes uncomfortable feelings then it’s not going to move you forward.

That’s all I wanted to add brother. Just trying to let you know it’s alright not to know what to do. You’ll find your way it’s just time to open your eyes more and be more present in how you’re feeling.

 

[MonsterMaker]

Exactly man… your last sentence needs to be your number one priority or what you should have front and center of your mind. And not to be “the guy with all the answers” because I’m not… however the quote often used in situations like this is that you out your oxygen mask on first because you can’t help anyone if you do them first. All I mean is yes your kids need to be the priority however keep yourself front and center. Those children need you… and I know you said you don’t know how to love yourself. That’s just because you’ve been doing the same thing over and over. Now that you have this on the forefront you’ll start your own process man. I had no idea what I was doing and I definitely didn’t know the first thing about what we’re talking about now.

Head on straight…. If you watch a lot of YT videos or constantly need to be doing something.. try taking a break from it. It acts as the same distraction. You need to be in the moment with some of these thoughts. Pen and paper… a journal of sorts… sounds silly but they’re all steps you’ll need to take. I used a therapist (it sounds like you found someone already and you’ve been going so that’s great). I’ll be very honest with you… if you use alcohol or rec drugs and you’re doing therapy it’s going to be a complete waste. If anyone knows anything about therapy it’s about talking and venting yes but it’s about dealing with some
issues you have stemming from your childhood and other aspects of your life. And alcohol and drugs just numb us right? so anyone who goes into therapy and has a session and leaving that session if we just num ourselves and not feel those sometimes uncomfortable feelings then it’s not going to move you forward.

That’s all I wanted to add brother. Just trying to let you know it’s alright not to know what to do. You’ll find your way it’s just time to open your eyes more and be more present in how you’re feeling.

I think I might PM you if you don’t mind? I like the way you think and you sound very much so to be a intellectual like myself. I don’t wanna lay anything on you too heavy tho bro. I only gave two other guys the full story here and they disappeared. This stuff is very heavy and disturbing… not that I want to romanticize on the problems anyways. I’m more concerned about taking about finding a solution at this point.

 

[Matt88]

Man this is heavy ass shit. Sorry to hear you got all this going on. Just don't let it push u over the edge and turn to drugs, alcohol, kratom etc. If u need to blow off steam then go to the gym.

 

[TheOldJJdigs]

I think I might PM you if you don’t mind? I like the way you think and you sound very much so to be a intellectual like myself. I don’t wanna lay anything on you too heavy tho bro. I only gave two other guys the full story here and they disappeared. This stuff is very heavy and disturbing… not that I want to romanticize on the problems anyways. I’m more concerned about taking about finding a solution at this point.

Of course… absolutely man. I’m here to listen or just talk whenever you’re feeling up for it. I know talking helps but it’d be good to talk about leaving this where it needs to be left and that’s in the past. I know you have a ton of resentment towards her but you’ll be amazed at how free you feel when you finally forgive her and move on. It takes a ridiculous amount of energy and stress to keep that up… should be time for you to start seeing where you can be in 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, a year… etc.

Here anytime brother

 

[MonsterMaker]

Man this is heavy ass shit. Sorry to hear you got all this going on. Just don't let it push u over the edge and turn to drugs, alcohol, kratom etc. If u need to blow off steam then go to the gym.

Absolutely will not, I saw how much worse that made everything after I initially made her leave. Won’t do that again thanks tho man I hope I figure this out


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[Bingo]

I snapped on my wife over the phone last night. Said some shir I shouldn’t have an I threatened her if she were to ever to it again… etc cops knocked at my door for 30mins straight at 5 AM freaking out right now to say the least


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So, I decided to respond to this one because I’ve more or less been in very similar situations in the past. Granted, when the police showed up, it was for something else and it was at around 3am and not 5.

First off, relax. You are not going to be arrested. If they were there to arrest you, they would have had a warrant and then they would have announced the warrant. If you failed to respond, they would have kicked your door in. Period. Full stop.

As another poster mentioned, cut off all ties with this person. If she’s calling the police, she’s serious. As in the most serious a person can possibly be. Maybe the police don’t have enough evidence to arrest you now but that doesn’t mean that if you continue, they won’t in the future.

They probably wanted to talk to you in hopes of you incriminating yourself and, thus, giving them enough evidence to place you under arrest. If they come back again, still do not answer the door. Say nothing to the police in this or any other circumstance.

I also sincerely hope that anything of an illicit nature that you possess at the residence will be quickly and quietly transferred offsite for a third party to hold in trust.

Outside of that, change your phone number. There is an off chance she may try to bait you in hopes of destroying your life. She wants you to pay for whatever she imagined occurred between the two of you. Don’t fall for it.

All in all, I hope everything works out for you.

 

[Fletcher]

So, I decided to respond to this one because I’ve more or less been in very similar situations in the past. Granted, when the police showed up, it was for something else and it was at around 3am and not 5.

First off, relax. You are not going to be arrested. If they were there to arrest you, they would have had a warrant and then they would have announced the warrant. If you failed to respond, they would have kicked your door in. Period. Full stop.

As another poster mentioned, cut off all ties with this person. If she’s calling the police, she’s serious. As in the most serious a person can possibly be. Maybe the police don’t have enough evidence to arrest you now but that doesn’t mean that if you continue, they won’t in the future.

They probably wanted to talk to you in hopes of you incriminating yourself and, thus, giving them enough evidence to place you under arrest. If they come back again, still do not answer the door. Say nothing to the police in this or any other circumstance.

I also sincerely hope that anything of an illicit nature that you possess at the residence will be quickly and quietly transferred offsite for a third party to hold in trust.

Outside of that, change your phone number. There is an off chance she may try to bait you in hopes of destroying your life. She wants you to pay for whatever she imagined occurred between the two of you. Don’t fall for it.

All in all, I hope everything works out for you.

Scroll back. Lol

 

[Bingo]

Scroll back. Lol

Yikes!

 

[frank zazz]

Free legal advice from my wife is shut the fuck up and don’t go and talk to the sheriff . Won’t even charge you the hourly rate for that bit of info .

 

[TheOldJJdigs]

So, I decided to respond to this one because I’ve more or less been in very similar situations in the past. Granted, when the police showed up, it was for something else and it was at around 3am and not 5.

First off, relax. You are not going to be arrested. If they were there to arrest you, they would have had a warrant and then they would have announced the warrant. If you failed to respond, they would have kicked your door in. Period. Full stop.

As another poster mentioned, cut off all ties with this person. If she’s calling the police, she’s serious. As in the most serious a person can possibly be. Maybe the police don’t have enough evidence to arrest you now but that doesn’t mean that if you continue, they won’t in the future.

They probably wanted to talk to you in hopes of you incriminating yourself and, thus, giving them enough evidence to place you under arrest. If they come back again, still do not answer the door. Say nothing to the police in this or any other circumstance.

I also sincerely hope that anything of an illicit nature that you possess at the residence will be quickly and quietly transferred offsite for a third party to hold in trust.

Outside of that, change your phone number. There is an off chance she may try to bait you in hopes of destroying your life. She wants you to pay for whatever she imagined occurred between the two of you. Don’t fall for it.

All in all, I hope everything works out for you.

They arrested him… lol

 

[stinkfingerdelux]

They arrested him… lol

For real?

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[Bingo]

They arrested him… lol

Improper phone use and domestic. Didn’t see that until after. Maybe he can do a pretrial intervention program. Either way, that sucks!

 

[TheOldJJdigs]

Improper phone use and domestic. Didn’t see that until after. Maybe he can do a pretrial intervention program. Either way, that sucks!

He’s been dealing with her for a while and the story is pretty heavy. Unfortunately for him she has been his weak point… I’m pretty sure he’s on the road at changing that as we speak 😉

MM is a good guy. He has issues just like all of us ya know? But he also has some legal options…

 

[Matt88]

He most certainly isn't the first nor will he be the last to be in that sort of a situation over a woman. Doesn't make it suck any less though.

 

[TheOldJJdigs]

He most certainly isn't the first nor will he be the last to be in that sort of a situation over a woman. Doesn't make it suck any less though.

Absolutely correct… there are some incredible women out there and there are some absolutely horror shows. Evil and vile human beings… nothing screams narcissism and major mental health problems like attempting to keep your own children away from their father.

 

[Xxxspecopsxxx]

I get it man! My issues are very different but still both are great examples of betrayal/dishonesty. My ex was actually abusing me covertly VIA drugs stolen from her place of work. Took me almost a year before I even caught on. The drugs she was giving me were causing me seizures and some psychotic/out of my head symptoms too.

I actually felt so good to have her her because I just thighs I got delt a shit deck of cards later in life and I was just happy to have her “support” through it all. She would lay by my bedside in the hospital just balling and trying to comfort me… little did I know she was the reason I was in the hospital.

That shit has really affected me and I’m so angry from it all. It’s literally destroying me. I just don’t know how I can forgive her for it. And if I can’t forgive her for it I don’t know how I’ll ever stop treating her like shit. She got a way with it and I just can’t let that happen…

Atleast that’s the thought that’s been making me behave this way for the last 2-3 years… I need to figure this out.


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Holly crap isn't that like attempted murder?

 

[Xxxspecopsxxx]

I get it man! My issues are very different but still both are great examples of betrayal/dishonesty. My ex was actually abusing me covertly VIA drugs stolen from her place of work. Took me almost a year before I even caught on. The drugs she was giving me were causing me seizures and some psychotic/out of my head symptoms too.

I actually felt so good to have her her because I just thighs I got delt a shit deck of cards later in life and I was just happy to have her “support” through it all. She would lay by my bedside in the hospital just balling and trying to comfort me… little did I know she was the reason I was in the hospital.

That shit has really affected me and I’m so angry from it all. It’s literally destroying me. I just don’t know how I can forgive her for it. And if I can’t forgive her for it I don’t know how I’ll ever stop treating her like shit. She got a way with it and I just can’t let that happen…

Atleast that’s the thought that’s been making me behave this way for the last 2-3 years… I need to figure this out.


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Holly crap isn't that like attempted murder? I think she's the one that needs to be locked up asap.

 

[Matt88]

Absolutely correct… there are some incredible women out there and there are some absolutely horror shows. Evil and vile human beings… nothing screams narcissism and major mental health problems like attempting to keep your own children away from their father.

Facts!

 

[Augustine5I]

Absolutely correct… there are some incredible women out there and there are some absolutely horror shows. Evil and vile human beings… nothing screams narcissism and major mental health problems like attempting to keep your own children away from their father.

It’s an attempt to control and punish

 

[MonsterMaker]

Holly crap isn't that like attempted murder? I think she's the one that needs to be locked up asap.

Indeed it is and this was the push I needed to take this head on. I will be pursuing charges and I have more evidence than I realized … just had some medical documents released to me that might turn this whole thing around In an instant.


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[Matt88]

Indeed it is and this was the push I needed to take this head on. I will be pursuing charges and I have more evidence than I realized … just had some medical documents released to me that might turn this whole thing around In an instant.


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Happy to hear it sir!!

 

[Matt88]

Listen, i know you been talking to JJ but IF you feel your self slipping addiction wise or anything that you just need to vent etc. PM me. You're not alone. We are your support system if you need it. I'd give you my number if need be. I work a lot but I will make time for you. I talk to a couple other members as well so nothing new there. This way if who you normally talk to is busy etc you have other options.

Stay strong.

 

[MonsterMaker]

Listen, i know you been talking to JJ but IF you feel your self slipping addiction wise or anything that you just need to vent etc. PM me. You're not alone. We are your support system if you need it. I'd give you my number if need be. I work a lot but I will make time for you. I talk to a couple other members as well so nothing new there. This way if who you normally talk to is busy etc you have other options.

Stay strong.

Thanks man will definitely keep that in mind right now I’m just trying to get my affairs in order ASAP


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[MonsterMaker]

Free legal advice from my wife is shut the fuck up and don’t go and talk to the sheriff . Won’t even charge you the hourly rate for that bit of info .

Is you’re wife actually a lawyer? If so I could use some more advice and a conversation I don’t care if I have to pay either


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[Xxxspecopsxxx]

Good luck maybe we will see you I'd channel one day telling your story

 

[Rot-Iron66]

I used to be a big police supporter. Until this tyrant arrested my wife just for us leaving the car to get in the AM. (Off-road mind you).
The lady at the end of the street where we left said it was fine, it was basically on the edge of her property.

Then I started to watch 1A audits on Youtube.
Most Cops dont know the law, they go hands-on. The blue-line gang (police flag) is basically "Us" (police) vs/ "them" (the public).
They treat citizens like garbage, lie, assualt, etc.

Of course there are some good ones. Majority are trash... Especially the new/dumb kids of today... And the dumb inked-up broads act tough, etc.
Comical...