Can you help me?

[slyonepunch]

Would you be part of my therapy...

Et Voilà, I end up with my sorry ass on the psychologist couch!

For those of you who know me a little bit, you must remember that my wife is a nurse, what you don't know is that her mothers' a nurse too and her aunt is a pharmacist and they got all the same bad habit to stick their fucking long nose in my business!

Long story short, we went to the shopping center few weeks ago and a stupid dude, just walking without looking where he was going, knock over my 4 years old son. He didn’t stop nor apologize for this and walk away like nothing append... My soon was crying, more afraid then hurt I guess. (Was with my wife and my 2 years old son)
I then run to this lunatic asking wtf with him then he told me to go fuck myself... I lost it! Don’t know how to translate it but I told him: ‘’J’va t’arracher ta crises de tête d’étron pi j’va t’chier dans l’corps’’ Might look like this: ‘’I’ll rip your fucking dumb ass head off then I’ll shit in your fucking ugly body’’ (btw, I’m off cycle right now and I know... no Tren for me!)

My wife came on, trying to cool me down. I then force the men to look at my hurt son and present some apologizes.

A week or so later, my wife told me that my son was more traumatize from my intervention than the incident with the freak... My son also tells the story to my wife parent’s and that’s where the shit hit the fan!!!

I’m now on this program for the hospital employees and their family call hanger management in everyday banal situations...
It was my second meeting with the psy yesterday and I’m still sticking to my point that I over react because my son was involved and I will always protect my family. The therapist asks me to tell my story to other and listen and analyze what they are thinking...

My wife was attending yesterday's meeting and drops a bomb telling the psy, totally out of nowhere, that I have more interest for training than having sex with her!!!

This fucking old wives’ then turn to me telling me that I’m selfish and narcissistic and more in love with myself than with my wife... I don’t think she have the right to throw personal impression like this... The worst part is that she knows my wife because she uses to follow her when fighting anorexia. I feel like its unfair and that I already get two strikes on me!

What you guys really think?

 

[oldarborist]

I been referred as a mother grizzly
when it comes down protecting my
son!..I lose my mind if somebody
speaks down to my son or physically
handles him!

As far as protecting your family I
support you action and commend
you for not shitting down his neck!

I'm sick of people with no manners!

Everyday I try to teach somebody a
small lesson of compassion for the
civilized!

 

[tommygunz]

You can't fix stupid brother. I used to react similarly and found it gained nothing as in your case. Through the years I've mellowed and found my center and for me it's family. You may have felt like you were protecting them at the time but what did you stand to gain? A forced apology from an idiot that didn't mean a word of it? Take the chance to be the hero whenever you get it. JMO

 

[corrections101]

It's all a matter of each person here. In my line of work...if an inmate bumps into me, it's an automatic drop his head off the floor - no questions asked. I'm real quick to do this in public as well (it's what I'm trained to do)...so I have to hold myself back while in public.

I had a similar situation a year ago. My wife and I were walking through walmart with our kids (my oldest one was 5 at the time, with the other one being a year old). A guy was walking very quickly through crowds just pushing people out of his way. He approached my son (who was in front of the cart) and, with arm extended, pushed him to the ground. My wife's first reaction was to go to him. Mine, on the other hand, was to grab the guys wrist, twist, arm bar, grab shoulder, bounce head off ground. And that's how he stayed for a few minutes with me just twisting the shit outta him (I had no cuffs so wtf...lol). Once deputies came, I released the guy. Explained to them what happened, where I work. Witnesses gave statements regarding what happened, as well as one of the managers stating they have video tape of the incident. Guy was arrested, I went along with my day.

My point is that by yelling you caused a scene; a scene that your son witnessed with you going off the deep end which, in my opinion, isn't good. You might say the same about me, but I was protecting my own, didn't yell and/or scream, just went into action. My son was actually proud of his daddy lol. Wife had no problem with anything as she knows the nature of my job and how I am.

As I said earlier, to each their own. But, I wouldn't recommend yelling like a mad man in front of your kids, I believe it sends the wrong message.

 

[ironman59]

Would you be part of my therapy...

Et Voilà, I end up with my sorry ass on the psychologist couch!

For those of you who know me a little bit, you must remember that my wife is a nurse, what you don't know is that her mothers' a nurse too and her aunt is a pharmacist and they got all the same bad habit to stick their fucking long nose in my business!

Long story short, we went to the shopping center few weeks ago and a stupid dude, just walking without looking where he was going, knock over my 4 years old son. He didn’t stop nor apologize for this and walk away like nothing append... My soon was crying, more afraid then hurt I guess. (Was with my wife and my 2 years old son)
I then run to this lunatic asking wtf with him then he told me to go fuck myself... I lost it! Don’t know how to translate it but I told him: ‘’J’va t’arracher ta crises de tête d’étron pi j’va t’chier dans l’corps’’ Might look like this: ‘’I’ll rip your fucking dumb ass head off then I’ll shit in your fucking ugly body’’ (btw, I’m off cycle right now and I know... no Tren for me!)

My wife came on, trying to cool me down. I then force the men to look at my hurt son and present some apologizes.

A week or so later, my wife told me that my son was more traumatize from my intervention than the incident with the freak... My son also tells the story to my wife parent’s and that’s where the shit hit the fan!!!

I’m now on this program for the hospital employees and their family call hanger management in everyday banal situations...
It was my second meeting with the psy yesterday and I’m still sticking to my point that I over react because my son was involved and I will always protect my family. The therapist asks me to tell my story to other and listen and analyze what they are thinking...

My wife was attending yesterday's meeting and drops a bomb telling the psy, totally out of nowhere, that I have more interest for training than having sex with her!!!

This fucking old wives’ then turn to me telling me that I’m selfish and narcissistic and more in love with myself than with my wife... I don’t think she have the right to throw personal impression like this... The worst part is that she knows my wife because she uses to follow her when fighting anorexia. I feel like its unfair and that I already get two strikes on me!

What you guys really think?

Man! This sounds familiar. I have the same temperment and it took 40 years before I finally realized that the ones criticizing me were full of shit. You dam strait, if someone mowed down one of my kids, big or small, they'd get me in their grill. I also have been accused of roid rage, but the truth is that I am consistent. On or off, you gots to stand up for yourself and your family. I'm 59 years old and I still get into a scrap occasionally. Difference is, I've learned to tell the critics that they are full of shit. You don't like me, you can show yourself to the door. And the truth is if one of the critics ever need help, they'll turn to someone they know has some guts.

 

[Heavy hitter]

Bro listen to your question, and think about your name. You should have let your wife comfort your boy. Then follow the idiot. When he gets to a place that fairly out of site. grab the back of his shirt pull him toward you real quick and snappy. Then with your free hand a quick chop to his throat. Let him down easy because he will be trying to catch his breath and may be panicky. Tell him quietly to watch were the fuck he is going. Then go back to your family. I used to blow up a lot over dumb shit. I punched a guy in the stomach at walmart one day I was so mad. The dude dropped to a knee and I walked off. I thought I would be in jail for sure. But the dude was surprised and embarrassed. He didn't say shit. I have only had one other instance like that but I was doing security at concert so I was kind of allowed. But really don't blow up in public. Your kids and wife were probably a little set back by it but I am sure the are proud of you sheltering them from harm. You didn't do anything wrong bro. Fuck your inlaws they don't know what its like to be awesome.

 

[corrections101]

I'm sorry...but to the last two posts:
How are the actions taken by OP in the right? The fact that he got up in someone's grill and/or yelled and made a huge scene in front of his family (thus, embarrassing them) - and that's ok? I laugh when people get in each other's faces and yell and scream...all show and no go.
If you had put the dbag on the ground or punched him after he knocked your kid that would be one thing - and I would totally have your back - but yelling and cursing and causing a scene while doing nothing else - a waste of time/energy.
If you don't see this...then you are blind guys. Sorry, but truth is truth.

 

[slyonepunch]

I'm sorry...but to the last two posts:
How are the actions taken by OP in the right? The fact that he got up in someone's grill and/or yelled and made a huge scene in front of his family (thus, embarrassing them) - and that's ok? I laugh when people get in each other's faces and yell and scream...all show and no go.
If you had put the dbag on the ground or punched him after he knocked your kid that would be one thing - and I would totally have your back - but yelling and cursing and causing a scene while doing nothing else - a waste of time/energy.
If you don't see this...then you are blind guys. Sorry, but truth is truth.

The problem here is that I just change my way of acting, big time. I was a MMA fighter and always ready to give a beating to those who disrespect me or my relative.
My wife’s now playing with my head way too much. She got some amazing quality’s but never been supportive about my sport. She met me when I was fighting, I’d never try to mislead her or pretend that I was a bowling player...
She attends to one of my fight where I was fighting for the Canadian title. I just destroy the guy; fight length was 1:39 of the first round.
My nickname of Sly One Punch was give to me by my fellows MMA fighters, when landing my big left hand in the middle of someone’s faces; he was down for the count.
Instead of being proud or happy for me she just told me that I’m a brutal and savage person...
Now I try to manage my emotions and stay cool, talking instead of knocking peoples out...That jerk just hurt my son and I was about to kill him but I know that a father in jail is way less effective at protecting his family so I stay as much cool as I can but lost it at one point. I’m proud of my self control but feel cheap for having my kids as spectators of this bad theatre act...

 

[ironman59]

I'm sorry...but to the last two posts:
How are the actions taken by OP in the right? The fact that he got up in someone's grill and/or yelled and made a huge scene in front of his family (thus, embarrassing them) - and that's ok? I laugh when people get in each other's faces and yell and scream...all show and no go.
If you had put the dbag on the ground or punched him after he knocked your kid that would be one thing - and I would totally have your back - but yelling and cursing and causing a scene while doing nothing else - a waste of time/energy.
If you don't see this...then you are blind guys. Sorry, but truth is truth.

Yeah. It is true, that you've got to pick your battles wisely. Hauling off and hitting someone is a sure trip to jail. I didn't mean that this is to be done without some caution. Each scenerio is different. OP was in the right, but I feel his embarassment cuz I've done the same thing. But I've gotten wiser, and have been able to avoid the public outbursts. It's a bummer when the family sees it.

 

[corrections101]

If someone pushes your child down - that is battery of a minor. If you step in and instantly take the individual down, then you are protecting your child as they are unable to protect themselves (self defense). You need to be able to articulate what happened.
Before you start saying I dont know what I'm talking about - I'm a LEO...I've gone through this before when someone pushed my son (read above). By yelling at the person, you just committed assault - which you can go to jail for. Just sayin' - read up on the laws fellas.

 

[ordawg1]

As you age I think guys handle these situations better and better.Best thing to do is just make sure your boy is OK-and spend time explaining to him how out of line other guy was.Time is better spent than wasting on a moron.Easier said than done-but with time it gets easier.This way you don't get LE involved or women.Luck-OD

 

[stewey19]

Man I believe u were in the right people are getting down right nasty and disrespectful but you can at lest take comfort that what you did will sit in the back of that guys mind and make him think a little next time he pulls that stunt

 

[slyonepunch]

Man I believe u were in the right people are getting down right nasty and disrespectful but you can at lest take comfort that what you did will sit in the back of that guys mind and make him think a little next time he pulls that stunt

School of life brother, I'm a teacher!

 

[Maverickshock]

Would have done the same ,,, When your bloods being offended, you react , balls too the wall brother.

 

[RAINier]

Would you be part of my therapy...

Et Voilà, I end up with my sorry ass on the psychologist couch!

For those of you who know me a little bit, you must remember that my wife is a nurse, what you don't know is that her mothers' a nurse too and her aunt is a pharmacist and they got all the same bad habit to stick their fucking long nose in my business!

Long story short, we went to the shopping center few weeks ago and a stupid dude, just walking without looking where he was going, knock over my 4 years old son. He didn’t stop nor apologize for this and walk away like nothing append... My soon was crying, more afraid then hurt I guess. (Was with my wife and my 2 years old son)
I then run to this lunatic asking wtf with him then he told me to go fuck myself... I lost it! Don’t know how to translate it but I told him: ‘’J’va t’arracher ta crises de tête d’étron pi j’va t’chier dans l’corps’’ Might look like this: ‘’I’ll rip your fucking dumb ass head off then I’ll shit in your fucking ugly body’’ (btw, I’m off cycle right now and I know... no Tren for me!)

My wife came on, trying to cool me down. I then force the men to look at my hurt son and present some apologizes.

A week or so later, my wife told me that my son was more traumatize from my intervention than the incident with the freak... My son also tells the story to my wife parent’s and that’s where the shit hit the fan!!!

I’m now on this program for the hospital employees and their family call hanger management in everyday banal situations...
It was my second meeting with the psy yesterday and I’m still sticking to my point that I over react because my son was involved and I will always protect my family. The therapist asks me to tell my story to other and listen and analyze what they are thinking...

My wife was attending yesterday's meeting and drops a bomb telling the psy, totally out of nowhere, that I have more interest for training than having sex with her!!!

This fucking old wives’ then turn to me telling me that I’m selfish and narcissistic and more in love with myself than with my wife... I don’t think she have the right to throw personal impression like this... The worst part is that she knows my wife because she uses to follow her when fighting anorexia. I feel like its unfair and that I already get two strikes on me!

What you guys really think?

Sly, you did the right thing by confronting him. Not by swearing and screaming at him though. Perhaps confront him in a calm manner and request an apology.

If you were smaller and not a fighter (just some skinny untrained guy), they wouldn't refer you to anger management. However, being big and a trained fighter means people will be genuinely afraid of you when you get angry. They're afraid of you being aggressive, even if they're your family (and confronting the guy in any way other than "very calm" will be seen as aggressive). This'll be forgotten about soon.

Go up to your wife one time (just when nothing else is going on) and tell her tenderly "honey, I've been thinking about what happened last week. It was so uncharacteristic of me.... I just love you and our boy so much... you guys are all that I have.... I really love you... etc. etc." Kiss her, etc., it should be gold.

But otherwise, I think they'll forget about it with time.

Honestly, I would have done EXACTLY the same thing you did though

 

[slyonepunch]

Sly, you did the right thing by confronting him. Not by swearing and screaming at him though. Perhaps confront him in a calm manner and request an apology.

If you were smaller and not a fighter (just some skinny untrained guy), they wouldn't refer you to anger management. However, being big and a trained fighter means people will be genuinely afraid of you when you get angry. They're afraid of you being aggressive, even if they're your family (and confronting the guy in any way other than "very calm" will be seen as aggressive). This'll be forgotten about soon.

Go up to your wife one time (just when nothing else is going on) and tell her tenderly "honey, I've been thinking about what happened last week. It was so uncharacteristic of me.... I just love you and our boy so much... you guys are all that I have.... I really love you... etc. etc." Kiss her, etc., it should be gold.

But otherwise, I think they'll forget about it with time.

Honestly, I would have done EXACTLY the same thing you did though

It sucks because in summer, when wearing t-shirt and short, strangely, peoples give me great respect! In winter with my coat and all the unaesthetic clothing, I can look massive but average.
I want peoples to give me respect at all time, not because they’re impress or intimidated by my physique but because it’s the way I treat others and I expect them to do the same...
I force this guy to apologize to my son because I also force them to do so when they hurt other child at the daycare.
My youngest son, the one on the chair; Named Edouard, he’s only 2 but weight 43lbs and act like a real bulldozer! The other one, Benjamin, 4 years old and he’s way more sensitive...He’s the one been knocked down...
I feel bad because after thinking of this, I flash on something; the shopping center (Place Versaille) is only two minutes from Louis-Hypolite-LaFontaine psychiatric institute and I think the men was from there...