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    Quote Originally Posted by MGM View Post
    Man Honestly they were very nice when I was a hot mess and kicked out but they are churchy folks "now" not there whole life but now for sure . They and the aunt and uncle have always been judgemental on things at "our" house . And ps no one knows what I'm going thru between me and her and how she is acting crazy . I'm not gonna live in fear of doing this or that because of the way she want's me to be . We literally had new floors put down , a deck , ceiling fans , trim , etc in the last few weeks and none of it was really ran by me or asked if I could do it etc . She just always does shit herself and has her dad do it .............. I'm the trashman the strong guy that pulls up the carpet but not smart enough to put down the floor or build the deck (which is bs ) I'm pretty mechanical and a working man
    I may be reading the situation wrong, but judging from past experience, she is likely leaning on her family instead of leaning on you. Hopefully the counselor pushes the fact that she "chose you". But with them living that close, they are always going to be in your (and her's) business. That is going to add a whole 'nother layer to things that sucks. If you continue to live next to them and she can't work thru it, it will make it a nightmare for you. If you think things are worth saving, it may take moving. Even then, if she's texting with them 24x7, etc it may still be a nightmare. They may not be directly trashing you, but they can definitely be obstacles in your relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kilsong View Post
    Twisted texted me and told me to ask what the 'big' in BIG MAC that Tinynutzz mentioned was all about.
    I personally don't care cuz if ur on this site that means - just like the rest of them-have entirely too much muscle for this gay guy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Multislacking View Post
    I may be reading the situation wrong, but judging from past experience, she is likely leaning on her family instead of leaning on you. Hopefully the counselor pushes the fact that she "chose you". But with them living that close, they are always going to be in your (and her's) business. That is going to add a whole 'nother layer to things that sucks. If you continue to live next to them and she can't work thru it, it will make it a nightmare for you. If you think things are worth saving, it may take moving. Even then, if she's texting with them 24x7, etc it may still be a nightmare. They may not be directly trashing you, but they can definitely be obstacles in your relationship.
    Nah the wifey is struggling with just telling me every week that I made the vows and disrespected her and how bad I am . The only family struggling with it is my kiddos , My son is a adult and has wrote me off kinda because of this even tho I raised him and his sperm donor signed him away and hasn't seen him in 10 years . My wife has told me to kick rocks so many times over the years even before the ladies were hitting me up . It's not cool to be told to get tf out of your own house etc . I think the cancer thing is getting to her and it's like she want's to be pampered and she doesn't realize the hate and disrespect she's throwing me .

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    I think you should give some hard thought on whether or not you want to be in the relationship with your wife. I know Iím only getting one side of the story here but a woman that shit talks you to her family, to your kids, doesnít cook, bosses you around and doesnít put out? No wonder youíre looking for attention elsewhere.

    I would stop ceding any ground to her whatsoever and start progressively pushing the onus onto her. I see it too often, men who cede every inch early in a relationship get walked all over in the long run. Granted I donít know if that is the case with you but it sounds like youíve let her have her way far too many times.

    Yeah you fucked up but you never banged anyone and it sounds like sheís been judgey and inconsiderate for some time now.

    You say youíre youngest is 7 so youíve got 2 options from what I can see. Either you start to assert yourself, perhaps with the assistance of a marriage counselor if things are truly the way you portray them or you look at getting a divorce.

    Nobody can tough that shit out for 11 years and youíll end up doing more harm than good for your kids if you try.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MGM View Post
    Bro I'm still at the house but it's crazy she just is expecting a certain answer for every question and evidently they haven't been right lol . The worst part is the kiddos . I have raised and adopted 4 of them and 1 true blood and absolutely consider all of them mine and will forever . What they have seen In the last year I feel has lowered there respect for me especially the way she goes about it . The youngest guy is just 7 and the others grown up or teenagers .
    Kind of fuck led up to use the kids as weaponsÖ leave em out of wtf is up with that?

    I remember my dad pulling me into all the drama with my moms affair and it fucked me up bad. That shits heavy for a kid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CastorTroy01 View Post
    I think you should give some hard thought on whether or not you want to be in the relationship with your wife. I know Iím only getting one side of the story here but a woman that shit talks you to her family, to your kids, doesnít cook, bosses you around and doesnít put out? No wonder youíre looking for attention elsewhere.

    I would stop ceding any ground to her whatsoever and start progressively pushing the onus onto her. I see it too often, men who cede every inch early in a relationship get walked all over in the long run. Granted I donít know if that is the case with you but it sounds like youíve let her have her way far too many times.

    Yeah you fucked up but you never banged anyone and it sounds like sheís been judgey and inconsiderate for some time now.

    You say youíre youngest is 7 so youíve got 2 options from what I can see. Either you start to assert yourself, perhaps with the assistance of a marriage counselor if things are truly the way you portray them or you look at getting a divorce.

    Nobody can tough that shit out for 11 years and youíll end up doing more harm than good for your kids if you try.
    She actually does cook once or twice a week and good but that just isn't a big deal to me etc . She's a great mother , not lazy cleans like crazy , just bossy , was divorced before me , hasn't put out etc but she doesn't like rap music I do , doesn't like horror , video games , has always hated on me about lifting weights and not really supported it, would totally not be cool with gear , hell a buddy from the gym gave me a india viagra few years back brand new in blister pack and she found it and acted like I would get arrested because it wasn't prescription lmao . Ps I really appreciate you guys input and will ask admin to take this thread down I totally don't want one about just my shit . Thx Fellas

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    You still got my email bro?

    ive been in your shoes with the no sex thing .... and the hypocrisy involved in constantly being accused of cheating.


    I kept it together for my kiddos and I donít regret it but I put my foot down pretty hard when I have to. Sounds like your wife has no respect for you.

    however, her coochie cancer thing might have something to do with libido.... and something about having kids and being busy just sucks the horny-ness right outta woman.

    If sheís cutting you down in front of your kids thatís a hard no go for me. Put that bitch in her place, sheíll respect you more for it. That shit stops or youíre better off starting over... gonna suck financially but Iíd rather be broke than miserable... plus then you can get laid....

    but.... sex ainít everything (I know itís hard to believe especially on the juice)....

    you need to take a long hard look at yourself... and what you really want in your future.

    I been going to AA (well I went once so far) to cut back on alcohol. Stress is definitely a trigger for me.. so I can relate to that. I know youíre already busy as fuck but staying busy helps too...

    take your kids on and outing with you and make memories and forge a stronger bond every chance you get.

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    I couldnít get my wife far from her mom too. Iíve had to set her (mom in law) straight twice in the last 15 years. We get along great now. By the way...

    itís a sad reality but your wife and her family need to be reminded that your the man of your domain. You fucked up... admit it, apologize ... explain to your wife you need her to figure out her libido issues because a man needs love... put the bottle down ... then press forward and put it behind you.

    if you want to save your family youíd better stop talking to the sluts too.

    ultimately, itís your decision.

    Iím just telling you my experience and opinions... I donít sleep on the couch ever anymore. She wants out, she knows which way the door swings and she knows Iím just psycho enough to make a new door through the wall for her if I have to. Lol

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    Dude you have allowed your wife to cut you off from your own support system (your family) while completely entrenching you in her her support system ( her family), so you will never get a fair shake there, like my father in law told me "blood is thicker than water" and I told him this is my house and I make the rules here.

    In todays woke society emotional cheating is as bad as physical cheating, this is why the wife and I don't have facebook, we feel it is a marriage destroyer, bored assholes from high school looking through their 25 year old year book wondering what other people are up to. It's a fucking trap and easy to get caught up in. anyway your life is upside down because "hot chicks" were dropping pics in your inbox and you like a dummy did not protect your privacy, 100% your fault and now you have to deal with the fallout.

    Step 1 is you must get your balls back from her, no man can live under the thumb of a woman like that, the stress will eat you alive, even tho I believe she has controlled you long before the pics were seen, thats why you live next to her ma and pa and never see your own parents. That is a calculated move on her part and sleeping at the wheel on your part.
    In my opinion you need to slowly take your manhood back, you didn't lose it overnight and you will not regain it back overnight, but you must start asserting yourself, not everything has to be a war but put away the white flag, stand your ground, always remind her that acting like a bitch in front of the kids have long lasting affects on them.

    If you know your phone is clean and no surprises are going to pop up, let her have the lock code, leave it laying around unattended so she can pick it up if she wants to, but she also must know that is a two way street, her phone needs to be an open book also.

    At the end of day you can not live the way you are now and if getting out is the only answer than thats a decision you will have to make, it's going to be the hardest desion you will ever make but remember she has already made that decision once in her life and it will be easier for her. Sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids is the worst decision for the kids, because it is an indirest abusive enviorment for them, constant yelling and argueing sends them into depression and that is not a good thing.
    Good Luck Man, I hope it works out even if you are only taking baby steps in the right direction.

    P.S. Is she Italian or Scorpio or both?...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    Iím just telling you my experience and opinions... I donít sleep on the couch ever anymore. She wants out, she knows which way the door swings and she knows Iím just psycho enough to make a new door through the wall for her if I have to. Lol


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    I wish I had filed for divorce many years ago. Now, it's too late. Regardless of who files, me or her, I will wind up paying her alimony for the rest of my life. She deserves nothing. We don't even talk anymore. We are just two people who happen to live in the same house. We've been married for four decades now and the only thing I know for sure is that tomorrow I will be even more miserable than I am today. I sincerely believe that two people are just not meant to be together as long as we have been. The only light at the end of the tunnel is that I have an exit strategy I plan to execute as soon as my daughter is old enough to be on her own.

    I read many years ago that marriage starts out with, "anywhere sex." Anywhere sex is when two people fuck like rabbits anywhere and everywhere. Marriage then progresses to, "bedroom sex." You satisfy each other's needs but it's nothing exciting. Marriage ends in, "hallway sex" where you both just say, "Fuck you" as you pass each other in the hallway. We're way past hallway sex and don't even say fuck you to each other anymore.

    Anyway, I don't know anymore than what I've read in this thread but your ol lady sounds like an emotional bully. It's not surprising because most women are. As painful as it will be, I highly recommend getting a divorce while you're still young enough to rebuild your life. Going through the process will suck, but in the end you'll be much happier.

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    I have been married 39 years and am in a good place now but we have crashed the boat a few times in 39 years, my wife says that after the kids are out marriage should be like a drivers licence, every four years you get to evaluate and move on freely if both parties want to go that way...

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    yeah boss- these guys have given u some GREAT advice. my first wife was beautiful, smart, great job-BUT- The whole 10 yrs we were married she was just waiting on me to cheat- and you'll never make it when this is the case. Now granted, she had a good reason to be that way- my behavior BEFORE we got married and BEFORE I met her was atrocious, BUT I made up my mind I wasn't gonna cheat- NO MATTER WHAT-and I didn't. BUT a man cannot live that way- constantly being watched and being berated will drive u CRAZY man. She finally pushed me so far that I raised my hand and I knew it was time to go and I did and it sucked- had to pay that bitch 872.00 a month for 84 months simply because of the DURATION of our marriage(she got a much better lawyer than me). Anyway bro- u got to ask urself if it's worth it to go thru some SERIOUS therapy and too me your biggest question is- Is she willing to change along w/ u or does she think ur the only one that needs changing- AND- is she willing to move- u need to get away from her family bro or she will ALWAYS be right- they will see too it. Anyway there's no easy answer to this- but I totally agree w/ necron(and reddog and milf). DO NOT stay for the kids-never works- and DO NOT stay and be miserable man- LIFE'S TOO SHORT- and there's more where she came from bud! Good Luck my man!

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    The ol lady, who used to fancy herself a good wife, once said to me, "You know you'll never find another woman who treats you as well as I do." My reply shocked her. "You think this is about me wanting to be with someone else? After being with you I never want to be with another woman as long as I live." She used to care about herself and took care of herself. Now, she just doesn't give a fuck, got disgustingly obese, and has the nastiest disposition you can imagine.

    If I knew as a young man what I know today, I never would have been married to anyone - ever. That's the single biggest mistake I ever made and boy has it cost me. Marriage benefits women, not men.

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    My wife is 60 and still looks close to the pic in my avi, she is a decent person and after the 40 years of growing pains we are in a fairly decent place, but I did call her a cunt two weeks ago because she was running off at the mouth, breaking my balls for no reason. Thats unacceptable to me. See I know it's a war not a skirmish and every hill has to be fought for, any real estate you freely give up is real estate you never get back, see i might have called her a cunt but 2 minutes later i was bringing her a cup of coffee, she pushed a little to hard over nothing and I reminded her I am not her son and will not tolerate getting my balls broke because she felt like doing it, and don't worry fellas she has some nice pet names for me too....

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