Marriage:

[IronRage]

But “White Girls” is ok because of the decades of oppressive black face whiteys in entertainment. “White Men Can’t Jump” wasn’t exactly the retaliation for “Black Men Can’t Speak” or “Black Men Won’t Work” though.

People just want to get offended...at anything. I think it has something to do with low self esteem and thinking being offended increases their worth as a person.

You forgot “black men can’t swim”

 

[CoachCabo]

You forgot “black men can’t swim”

Mexicans either.

 

[CSOReaper]

I love marriage personally. I say that with the concession that you took your time and married the right person. I was very young when I married, under 20. I thought I knew everything.

When you hit about 25-27 your brain matures quickly and stops growing. It will never stop learning, only growing in size. You start to see the world, and your spousal choice, in a different light.

I would recommend that no one gets married, nor has kids, until they are at least 28-30.

I have looked back on mine and wondered "how could I have been so naive?". That's youth for you. Young, dumb, and full of.... well you know the saying.

Marriage is a partnership. You and her should share the same outlook on life, kids, family, everything. It doesn't have to be a total agreement, just how you will work issues out and do it as adults. She should also back your play, no matter what or who is involved. She doesn't have to agree with you, but she can tell you that in private. Same with you toward her, ALWAYS back her up.

Partners, intimate as well as best friends.

 

[Tall Deck]

You're not wrong, your friend is being over-sensitive. The 3rd pic shows a mostly whitey face with some dark areas where mud got on him or such. Pretty clear.

Don't write him off, just ask him why he sees it that way.

I actually got more ticked off than he did and I called him a retard because I was real disappointed that he was actually hinting around that I sent him a racist pic, and he should know me better than that. I don;t hate him for this incident, but I can no longer joke around with him, since he will obviously twist things, and he didn't used to be that way. It seems that ever since he got married to this female who is a Psychologist, he's taken on this extreme political correctness/black victimhood mentality. This guy was born in Haiti, but he's been here and has been a citizen since the mid 90's and his english is close to perfect. He is into drag racing like I am, and that's how we originally cliqued. He also works where i do.

His wife sometimes sends him into work with collard greens for me, cuz she knows I love them, and sge cooks them real good too. But the two times I met her, she seemed real cold towards me. Wouldn't even talk nor smile at all. the guy claims it's cuz she takes a while to warm up to people, so IDK.

Why does she think you're cheating? Porn or something? And how does she bring out the worst?

Have you tried couples therapy, different communication strategies, confronting shit? Seems like the best approach. And something that would help you no matter how it turns out, even if it's a "bad" outcome but you stay together for other reasons and have to endure, the therapy might give you perspective and the ability to set boundaries and expectations. Powerful shit IMO.

She is just a plain crazy jealous rican LOL. A rican guy who I work with who I barely know once overheard me say to someone else that I married a rican woman. He walked up to me and said" Wait a minute. Did I just hear you say that you married a rican lady?"....I said "Yes"....then he said..."I'm a rican, and even I would NEVER marry a rican woman. They're CRAZY!!!!" LOL

But she is crazy jealous about everything. Before we got married, she wanted the last names and the addresses of the last two girls I had before I knew her, or she was going to break up with me. I told her that she was crazy and that I had not even talked nor seen either one of the last two in over 6 years at that point. She said that if i wasn't willing to do that, then that meant that I have something to hide, and in that case it would be over with us. LOL....so i said ok then, I'm outta here and proceeded to open her front door, and she called me back in her house. She is just crazy jealous over nothing.

She gave me a ride to work one day, and there was some nice looking black chick walking through the parking lot, and my wife said..."That's her isn't it?"...I said "who?"...she said,,," that black girl you used to date from work....I'm getting outta this car and I'm gonna kick her azz!!!"...I started laughing at her...and I said..."You're crazy...I never saw that girl before in my life"...(keep in mind that I work in a factory that has 3,500 employees) so my wife says..."Then if you don't know her, why was she looking over here at my car when we pulled up?"...I said "I don't know, why were you looking at her?"...No get outta here and go home, you're crazy"...LOL but she is also dominnering and stubborn and never lets me get a word in edgewise even when she isn't mad at me. She controlled all of this stuff very well before we got married. We went to two different counselors. One of them was a woman, and we went once a week for 12 weeks and it did nothing.

Tell your boy he needs a new phone or new glasses but tbh he needs to Chill out.... if he’s ur buddy it shouldn’t matter what you send him, cause he’s ur buddy! Thats why my circle is so smalll tho... I don’t let people in that I have to wonder if I can be myself 100% of the time...

Either way, That’s clearly the same caveman with his asss kicked ... good lord! America is breeding and nurturing “sensitive cunts”


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Yea I hear ya man. He's ridiculous with this black stuff. he's getting worse as he gets older too.

Totally agree. After a life long lesson of learning how people really are, I can count my true friends on one hand and not even count to five. People are close minded and most think they are owed something. "White man keeping the black man down" attitude is outrageous. Our founding fathers would roll over in their grave if they new how they world acted today.

X2 I agree. Keep in mind that my other black buddy had no problem with the pics.

You should aks him if he’s ever seen the movie white girls, even if he hasn’t you know damn well he knows what it is, then tell him to take his racist head out of his racist ass and grow the fuck up

Good point!!! I like that. BTW, are any of you who have replied so far black? I was hoping that at least one of you were.

My thoughts exactly. "blackface"....wtf? I'd say he's a blind sensitive cunt and also a little dumb if he couldn't put two and two together from the pics if he couldn't see them clearly.

Yeah he's deinitely coming across as ignorant on this topic.

But “White Girls” is ok because of the decades of oppressive black face whiteys in entertainment. “White Men Can’t Jump” wasn’t exactly the retaliation for “Black Men Can’t Speak” or “Black Men Won’t Work” though.

People just want to get offended...at anything. I think it has something to do with low self esteem and thinking being offended increases their worth as a person.

Yes, that's what I told him. i said that he acts like he's defensive because he's black, and I give him no reason to be after I've known him for 12 years now.

You forgot “black men can’t swim”

LOL....

I would recommend that no one gets married, nor has kids, until they are at least 28-30.

I agree

 

[Multislacking]

TD...you are *the* master of multiquotes. Hands down.

 

[Milford King]

I love marriage personally. I say that with the concession that you took your time and married the right person. I was very young when I married, under 20. I thought I knew everything.

When you hit about 25-27 your brain matures quickly and stops growing. It will never stop learning, only growing in size. You start to see the world, and your spousal choice, in a different light.

I would recommend that no one gets married, nor has kids, until they are at least 28-30.

I have looked back on mine and wondered "how could I have been so naive?". That's youth for you. Young, dumb, and full of.... well you know the saying.

Marriage is a partnership. You and her should share the same outlook on life, kids, family, everything. It doesn't have to be a total agreement, just how you will work issues out and do it as adults. She should also back your play, no matter what or who is involved. She doesn't have to agree with you, but she can tell you that in private. Same with you toward her, ALWAYS back her up.

Partners, intimate as well as best friends.

I got married at 21. Hind sight is 20/20. My biggest complaint is that we rarely operate as a team. Our view on everything is vastly different and it causes a lot of problems.

so I agree. Wait on marriage. And if she pressures you or gives you an ultimatum, let her go, and don’t take her back. Otherwise, the concept of marriage is pretty nice. If you’ve got each other’s backs it can be beautiful.

 

[Multislacking]

Our view on everything is vastly different and it causes a lot of problems.

Opposites attract, though...soooo. Hard to fight what's in our nature. At least for me it is.

 

[chocolatemalt]

I actually got more ticked off than he did and I called him a retard because I was real disappointed that he was actually hinting around that I sent him a racist pic, and he should know me better than that. I don;t hate him for this incident, but I can no longer joke around with him, since he will obviously twist things, and he didn't used to be that way. It seems that ever since he got married to this female who is a Psychologist, he's taken on this extreme political correctness/black victimhood mentality. This guy was born in Haiti, but he's been here and has been a citizen since the mid 90's and his english is close to perfect. He is into drag racing like I am, and that's how we originally cliqued. He also works where i do.

If you're both open to talking about perceptions and stereotypes, you should watch some Chris Rock and Dave Chappelle stand up shows together, over beers.

But she is crazy jealous about everything. Before we got married, she wanted the last names and the addresses of the last two girls I had before I knew her, or she was going to break up with me. I told her that she was crazy and that I had not even talked nor seen either one of the last two in over 6 years at that point. She said that if i wasn't willing to do that, then that meant that I have something to hide, and in that case it would be over with us. LOL....so i said ok then, I'm outta here and proceeded to open her front door, and she called me back in her house. She is just crazy jealous over nothing.

She gave me a ride to work one day, and there was some nice looking black chick walking through the parking lot, and my wife said..."That's her isn't it?"...I said "who?"...she said,,," that black girl you used to date from work....I'm getting outta this car and I'm gonna kick her azz!!!"...I started laughing at her...and I said..."You're crazy...I never saw that girl before in my life"...(keep in mind that I work in a factory that has 3,500 employees) so my wife says..."Then if you don't know her, why was she looking over here at my car when we pulled up?"...I said "I don't know, why were you looking at her?"...No get outta here and go home, you're crazy"...LOL but she is also dominnering and stubborn and never lets me get a word in edgewise even when she isn't mad at me. She controlled all of this stuff very well before we got married. We went to two different counselors. One of them was a woman, and we went once a week for 12 weeks and it did nothing.

You must be attracted to that jealousness or you wouldn't have married her, no?

I remember feeling good about some chicks getting jealous at times, but learned that it quickly gets dangerous and you gotta keep your distance. And very often it's a cover for their own behavior, past or current. Take a look at their texts and emails to be sure, I say. They're probably already doing the same to you. But prepare to be shocked.

Good point!!! I like that. BTW, are any of you who have replied so far black? I was hoping that at least one of you were.

We had at least a few black regulars here for a long time but they've faded away.

 

[Tall Deck]

We had at least a few black regulars here for a long time but they've faded away.

You mean their skin turned white?

 

[Tall Deck]

If you're both open to talking about perceptions and stereotypes, you should watch some Chris Rock and Dave Chappelle stand up shows together, over beers.



You must be attracted to that jealousness or you wouldn't have married her, no?

I remember feeling good about some chicks getting jealous at times, but learned that it quickly gets dangerous and you gotta keep your distance. And very often it's a cover for their own behavior, past or current. Take a look at their texts and emails to be sure, I say. They're probably already doing the same to you. But prepare to be shocked.



We had at least a few black regulars here for a long time but they've faded away.

The biggest thing with my mrs. is not even the insane jealousy. It's the annoying disrespect she has of everyone when she constantly interrupts people mid-sentence and talks over them. This includes me. Again, she kept this under control but before we got married, but since we were married, it's out of control and it's tough to talk to her at all about anything. her mother is the exct same way. You cannot get a word in edgewise when she talks at you. I've told my wife again and again to stop doing that, but she won't. So now I just have to walk away from her at least once a day because she does that, otherwise I'll get super angry and start yelling at her. It just plain sucks

 

[Rot-Iron66]

Im one of the rare ones it seems, even our married friends tell us and say WTF. Wife and I just hit 30th anniversary, together since 1983 (36 years total).
Best friend and we do everything together and are seldom w/out one another, even train together for last 25 years. Yes it is rare, even noticed by our other married friends who can barely stand one-another.

 

[Tall Deck]

Im one of the rare ones it seems, even our married friends tell us and say WTF. Wife and I just hit 30th anniversary, together since 1983 (36 years total).
Best friend and we do everything together and are seldom w/out one another, even train together for last 25 years. Yes it is rare, even noticed by our other married friends who can barely stand one-another.

That's pretty cool. You're very fortunate, very smart, or a little of both.

 

[Sayian24]

OK guys, here's the thing: My wife is a nut case, as is her whole entire family. She hid it very well, and came across to me like she was the sheep among wolves in her family, but her true colors came out. She's faithful to me, but constantly accusses me of not being faithful to her. She also brings out the worst in me. But I guess I made my bed, and I have to sleep in it. Fortunately, we don't have kids. I love kids, but she wouldn't make a good mom, and her mother would be the grandmother from hell, teaching my kid to disrespect me and disregard what i say. It's all acedemic because I'm too old to be starting a family now anyway. I don't want pre-teens to be running around the house when I'm retired.

But here's what i really want to focus on.....the three pics....

I sent those three pics in a text to 6 friends of mine, making fun of the rough time and tough marriage I've been enduring. Two of the guys i sent the texts and pics to are black guys, and the rest are white. None of them had any problem with those pics except for one of the black guys. He said that I shouldn't be sending him pics of a white guy with black face on his skin because that's politically incorrect.He was talking about the third picture which is in my third post here. I had no idea of what in the world he was talking about until he explained it. I told him he is a retard because that pic isn't supposed to be a white guy trying to impersonate nor mock a bkack guy. It's a pic of a cave man all beat up from being pushed off a cliff and falling down the mountain side below. So he's bruised and cut up, with one eye ball hanging out and dirt on his face.

Which has nothing to do with any racist black face pics. The pic is a still shot I took from the 1969 Raquel Welch movie "One Million years B.C." but I posted this because i want to ask you guys if anyone here took that last pic as being racist in any way, or being an Al Jolson type black face pic. I think the guy who thought that is just plain nuts, and I don't even care to hang around the guy anymore after he made an issue out of this. Am I wrong?? What say you???

He is wrong about the pics. First you suppose to be friends it’s fucking humor no I’ll intent. Also it’s not like you pulled the pic from the birth of a nation. Your friend went overboard. Also i am half black half white, didn’t even cross my mind when I seen the pics and I don’t even know you.


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[need2lift]

And if she pressures you or gives you an ultimatum, let her go, and don’t take her back. Otherwise, the concept of marriage is pretty nice. If you’ve got each other’s backs it can be beautiful.

This right here...well said! My wife has one or two girlfriends that did this shit. Men bit hook line and sinker and it makes it hard to think they have a real solid foundation.

 

[IronRage]

Good point!!! I like that. BTW, are any of you who have replied so far black? I was hoping that at least one of you were.

That’s a big part of the problem why the hell does it matter what color someone is?? Sorry TD but you’re friend is an idiot especially considering he’s from Haiti and the people there call white people the white version of the n word, among many other reasons.....

The fact that black face is even a thing nowadays is completely ridiculous, how much ill intent could you possibly have dressing up for a Halloween party or a movie or comedy skit?? Don’t forget Dave Chappelle did the same thing too but I don’t remember any white people outraged over it

 

[heckler7]

it should cost 60K to get married and divorce should be 25bucks. It may make people think a little harder about tying the perpetual knot we call marriage. If not that, You should at least get a 36 month return policy lol at no cost

threre would just be more kids growing up without dads

 

[chocolatemalt]

The biggest thing with my mrs. is not even the insane jealousy. It's the annoying disrespect she has of everyone when she constantly interrupts people mid-sentence and talks over them. This includes me. Again, she kept this under control but before we got married, but since we were married, it's out of control and it's tough to talk to her at all about anything. her mother is the exct same way. You cannot get a word in edgewise when she talks at you. I've told my wife again and again to stop doing that, but she won't. So now I just have to walk away from her at least once a day because she does that, otherwise I'll get super angry and start yelling at her. It just plain sucks

You're supposed to love those quirks of hers, but if she truly hid them before marriage then you had no chance to make a choice on the matter. She really didn't show it? I'm a Midwestern/West Coast/Mountain West dude but I did spend 3 yrs living in NYC (mostly right in Manhattan) and as you know, the cultural manner of speaking is fast, loud, and interruptive. Takes some getting used to for Midwesterners, lemme tell you, but you already know this stuff since you're in the region, no? And some subcultures like Italians and especially Puerto Ricans are well known for the ratatatatat conversational style and even worse when it comes to arguments. I was exposed to it on the trading floors and Wall St. firms in a huge way since manners are nearly absent in that environment. She kept all that hidden? That's impressive.

You ought to try counseling yet again, with someone new. Could eventually help.

 

[Augustine5I]

The biggest thing with my mrs. is not even the insane jealousy. It's the annoying disrespect she has of everyone when she constantly interrupts people mid-sentence and talks over them. This includes me. Again, she kept this under control but before we got married, but since we were married, it's out of control and it's tough to talk to her at all about anything. her mother is the exct same way. You cannot get a word in edgewise when she talks at you. I've told my wife again and again to stop doing that, but she won't. So now I just have to walk away from her at least once a day because she does that, otherwise I'll get super angry and start yelling at her. It just plain sucks

Could it be bc she already knows what you are going to say and so thinks it pointless to wait until the end of your sentence??

Jk. She is aware of what she is doing.

The natural order of a conversation is to speak and then listen. She obviously can't be bothered with anything you would have to say. She just can't wait to say what she wants irrespective of what you might be thinking.

She interrupts as a learned behavior from her mom. She can unlearn it too.

"Accept it, change it or leave it." Only 3 options you will have in any given situation.

Sounds like you are ready to leave "it."

 

[Arnold]

This is me after one day of marriage....

Yeah marriage is a bitch and it was not for me.

 

[Tall Deck]

Her mother is a disruptive, nosey, disrespectful WITCH. And out of her two daughters, my wife is her favorite, and she coddles her, and blows smoke up her butt hole over the phone like she is some princess, and it blows her head up, and makes it impossible to deal with her.

her flakey mother stayed with us for three days during Thanksgiving, (longest three days of my life) and the lingering effects of that visit are still with us. She lives 5 states away, and she flew over here to stay with us. When I married my wife a few years ago, she had a full time job, and after working at that job for 15 years, they laid her off. That was a little over two years ago, and since then, she's fine with working part time, (about 15 hours a week) while I have to pay ALL of the bills for both of us, as well as giving her money for gasoline!!!

I've been telling her that this has to stop and she has to get a full time job again, since that's what she had when she married me. She doesn't want to do that. And her mother tells me when she was visiting that her daughter shouldn't have to work, and that I'm "The man" so I SHOULD be paying all of the bills anyway, (oh and BTW, we don't have kids). It took every ounce of my self-control not to slap the crap out of that witch, or kick her out of my house when she said that to me right in front of my wife. I told her mother flat out that she should mind her own business, and that if she thinks that her 50 year old daughter shouldn't work, then she should take her back home with her when she leaves and support her for the rest of her life.

So this has been on ongoing source of contention between my wife and I. I never saw this tendency of laziness in her before I married her. I told her that I'm tired of being used, and she needs to start pulling her own weight instead being a free-loader, and I told her that again right in front of her mother. Needless to say, I had a rotten thanksgiving. LOL. I said to her mother: "Why do you coddle your dughter?"...."she is 50 years old, not 6."....and she had nothing to say to that and began rambling on about something else unrelated.

 

[Multislacking]

It's not the holidays until your "family" has made you feel uncomfortable (or worse).

 

[Augustine5I]

Her mother is a disruptive, nosey, disrespectful WITCH. And out of her two daughters, my wife is her favorite, and she coddles her, and blows smoke up her butt hole over the phone like she is some princess, and it blows her head up, and makes it impossible to deal with her.

her flakey mother stayed with us for three days during Thanksgiving, (longest three days of my life) and the lingering effects of that visit are still with us. She lives 5 states away, and she flew over here to stay with us. When I married my wife a few years ago, she had a full time job, and after working at that job for 15 years, they laid her off. That was a little over two years ago, and since then, she's fine with working part time, (about 15 hours a week) while I have to pay ALL of the bills for both of us, as well as giving her money for gasoline!!!

I've been telling her that this has to stop and she has to get a full time job again, since that's what she had when she married me. She doesn't want to do that. And her mother tells me when she was visiting that her daughter shouldn't have to work, and that I'm "The man" so I SHOULD be paying all of the bills anyway, (oh and BTW, we don't have kids). It took every ounce of my self-control not to slap the crap out of that witch, or kick her out of my house when she said that to me right in front of my wife. I told her mother flat out that she should mind her own business, and that if she thinks that her 50 year old daughter shouldn't work, then she should take her back home with her when she leaves and support her for the rest of her life.

So this has been on ongoing source of contention between my wife and I. I never saw this tendency of laziness in her before I married her. I told her that I'm tired of being used, and she needs to start pulling her own weight instead being a free-loader, and I told her that again right in front of her mother. Needless to say, I had a rotten thanksgiving. LOL. I said to her mother: "Why do you coddle your dughter?"...."she is 50 years old, not 6."....and she had nothing to say to that and began rambling on about something else unrelated.

You are resenting your wife bc she isn't pulling her weight. And they are trying to make you feel as if it is wrong to feel this way, when actually you aren't wrong at all.

AND if you were the "MAN" and was okay to have her sit home most of the time, then you should get what comes with it. Home cooked meals, a clean house, shopping and laundry done, sex on demand...etc.

Otherwise, what's the fucking point???? You don't want a lazy roommate. No one does. You can find someone else much better to be a roommate. Don't need her for that....

Sounds like she has it pretty good. Without any motivation to change it.

 

[Multislacking]

AND if you were the "MAN" and was okay to have her sit home most of the time, then you should get what comes with it. Home cooked meals, a clean house, shopping and laundry done, sex on demand...etc.

Fuckin A, right!!! Sex on demand...bitch, I'm finishing on your face every time! And look at me when I do it!!!

Yeah, start laying down your own ultimatums and expectations.

 

[CoachCabo]

EVERY relationship I have been in the families of my GF or wife created the most tension we ever had in our relationship. I had a GF that we had a great time together. She would go visit her mom and come back and give me a week of misery. Likely because the mom being critical of me, my life, career...whatever. Meanwhile the mom is the widow of a biker, married to a guy 20 years her junior who does auto glass, smokes weed and plays video games all day.

First wife's family were 7th Day Adventist who judged me at every turn. Always making comments about our purchases even though our income was double pretty much every one elses in the family. Good christians. Blamed my wife's early menopause on her first marriage, which was to a black man. Who knows what they blamed her Early Onset Alzheimer's on? They were horrible to her when her disease progressed. The father croaked from pancreatic cancer and left a 40 year trail of love letters in his desk from all the chicks he banged, in the church and otherwise. Dude was such a dick he didn't even bother to sanitize his shit even though he knew he was on deaths door. When my wife died, her family scrambled for her money, life insurance and anything they could get their hands on. Because we had divorced to facilitate her care and finances, her sisters got power of attorney and drained her dry. Even changed the beneficiaries from what we had put down when we bought the policies for our niece and nephews nearly 20 years before.

Hands down despicable people.

You guys talk about finding the perfect one. Well, I did. Waited 34 years to find the right one. Unfortunately things don't always go as planned.

 

[Tall Deck]

You are resenting your wife bc she isn't pulling her weight. And they are trying to make you feel as if it is wrong to feel this way, when actually you aren't wrong at all.

AND if you were the "MAN" and was okay to have her sit home most of the time, then you should get what comes with it. Home cooked meals, a clean house, shopping and laundry done, sex on demand...etc.

Otherwise, what's the fucking point???? You don't want a lazy roommate. No one does. You can find someone else much better to be a roommate. Don't need her for that....

Sounds like she has it pretty good. Without any motivation to change it.

Fuckin A, right!!! Sex on demand...bitch, I'm finishing on your face every time! And look at me when I do it!!!

Yeah, start laying down your own ultimatums and expectations.

Well I'm gradually squeezing her to do the right thing. For instance, she loved sitting home, and taking over the living room TV to watch all of her childish ridiculous reality shows, ( Real Housewives, Little people, 90 day fiance, and Dr. Pimple Popper) but the day before her family came to stay with us, (mother, sister, neice) I had the cable TV shut off since I don't watch a whole lot of it anyway, and I just kept the internet service for a fraction of what i was paying for the canble TV. I told her that until she starts giving me $40 per week towards that bill, then we will never have cable TV again. She reacted like a junky that was cut-off. She started looking harder for jobs, but she still is being too picky about applying for jobs that aren't her "dream" job.

EVERY relationship I have been in the families of my GF or wife created the most tension we ever had in our relationship. I had a GF that we had a great time together. She would go visit her mom and come back and give me a week of misery. Likely because the mom being critical of me, my life, career...whatever. Meanwhile the mom is the widow of a biker, married to a guy 20 years her junior who does auto glass, smokes weed and plays video games all day.

First wife's family were 7th Day Adventist who judged me at every turn. Always making comments about our purchases even though our income was double pretty much every one elses in the family. Good christians. Blamed my wife's early menopause on her first marriage, which was to a black man. Who knows what they blamed her Early Onset Alzheimer's on? They were horrible to her when her disease progressed. The father croaked from pancreatic cancer and left a 40 year trail of love letters in his desk from all the chicks he banged, in the church and otherwise. Dude was such a dick he didn't even bother to sanitize his shit even though he knew he was on deaths door. When my wife died, her family scrambled for her money, life insurance and anything they could get their hands on. Because we had divorced to facilitate her care and finances, her sisters got power of attorney and drained her dry. Even changed the beneficiaries from what we had put down when we bought the policies for our niece and nephews nearly 20 years before.

Hands down despicable people.

You guys talk about finding the perfect one. Well, I did. Waited 34 years to find the right one. Unfortunately things don't always go as planned.

Wow that sucks

 

[Tall Deck]

Oh BTW, I would never go with her for counseling again. The Psychologists who do that never have any answers, nor are they ever willing to be a referee, nor lay into one of the parties who clearly seem in the wrong at times. They sit there and listen, and merely ask questions. they don't supply answers nor do they even try to. And they will have you going to them for visits as long as your insurance will pay. I've never heard them say, "well I've helped you as much as I can, now you can spend time yi tras

 

[Tall Deck]

sorry about the end of that last post above...(I was falling asleep LOL).

 

[chocolatemalt]

Well I'm gradually squeezing her to do the right thing. For instance, she loved sitting home, and taking over the living room TV to watch all of her childish ridiculous reality shows, ( Real Housewives, Little people, 90 day fiance, and Dr. Pimple Popper) but the day before her family came to stay with us, (mother, sister, neice) I had the cable TV shut off since I don't watch a whole lot of it anyway, and I just kept the internet service for a fraction of what i was paying for the canble TV. I told her that until she starts giving me $40 per week towards that bill, then we will never have cable TV again. She reacted like a junky that was cut-off. She started looking harder for jobs, but she still is being too picky about applying for jobs that aren't her "dream" job.

Wow that sucks

I know you were responding to Cabo but you may as well have been responding to yourself.

Sounds unworkable to me. You really gotta ask yourself why you're staying. And be accepting of the answers, whether it's a yes or no.

 

[Milford King]

Is she sexy at least? Does she put out and is she any good in bed? Is that why you tolerate her laziness? Are you afraid of being alone?

listen dude... you seem like a good guy and I totally get it... my wife wanted to be a stay at home mom so I busted my ass so she could live out her dream and all I want is a fucking blowjob a couple times a week. I had no dream career to pursue, I wanted to just indulge in mediocrity and get laid. So, since that doesn’t happen I get pissed and try to get her to bring in some income so I can afford gear so I can smash some weights and maybe get hot enough to get noticed by some holly weird whore that can cast me in Jason statham like roles so I can have a mansion and a 200k sports car that I smash up weekly. Is that too much to ask?

anyways bro..

im staying for the kids. I like them. I like having a family.

if you want your shit to work out you gotta stop the negative self talk first. You gotta stop bitching to yourself about why she makes you miserable and start telling yourself the things you like about her, daily. It’s difficult, but if you want to try to make it that’s where you start.

if not, find a nice side piece that you can take your frustrations out on.

good luck bruh!

 

[Multislacking]

all I want is a fucking blowjob a couple times a week

You know...there'd be a lot more peace on earth if this was the case for all of us. Just sayin.

I'm going to go out on a limb from what TD has described. The craziness he puts up with probably does carry over into the bedroom. Crazy chicks also do some crazy stuff in the bedroom. And it will make you tolerate a *lot* of that crazy behavior *outside* the bedroom. You just have to decide if the occasional wild sex is worth it or not. Weigh it in the scales.