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    Quote Originally Posted by CoachCabo View Post
    But “White Girls” is ok because of the decades of oppressive black face whiteys in entertainment. “White Men Can’t Jump” wasn’t exactly the retaliation for “Black Men Can’t Speak” or “Black Men Won’t Work” though.

    People just want to get offended...at anything. I think it has something to do with low self esteem and thinking being offended increases their worth as a person.
    You forgot “black men can’t swim”

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    Quote Originally Posted by IronRage View Post
    You forgot “black men can’t swim”
    Mexicans either.

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    I love marriage personally. I say that with the concession that you took your time and married the right person. I was very young when I married, under 20. I thought I knew everything.

    When you hit about 25-27 your brain matures quickly and stops growing. It will never stop learning, only growing in size. You start to see the world, and your spousal choice, in a different light.

    I would recommend that no one gets married, nor has kids, until they are at least 28-30.

    I have looked back on mine and wondered "how could I have been so naive?". That's youth for you. Young, dumb, and full of.... well you know the saying.

    Marriage is a partnership. You and her should share the same outlook on life, kids, family, everything. It doesn't have to be a total agreement, just how you will work issues out and do it as adults. She should also back your play, no matter what or who is involved. She doesn't have to agree with you, but she can tell you that in private. Same with you toward her, ALWAYS back her up.

    Partners, intimate as well as best friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chocolatemalt View Post
    You're not wrong, your friend is being over-sensitive. The 3rd pic shows a mostly whitey face with some dark areas where mud got on him or such. Pretty clear.

    Don't write him off, just ask him why he sees it that way.
    I actually got more ticked off than he did and I called him a retard because I was real disappointed that he was actually hinting around that I sent him a racist pic, and he should know me better than that. I don;t hate him for this incident, but I can no longer joke around with him, since he will obviously twist things, and he didn't used to be that way. It seems that ever since he got married to this female who is a Psychologist, he's taken on this extreme political correctness/black victimhood mentality. This guy was born in Haiti, but he's been here and has been a citizen since the mid 90's and his english is close to perfect. He is into drag racing like I am, and that's how we originally cliqued. He also works where i do.

    His wife sometimes sends him into work with collard greens for me, cuz she knows I love them, and sge cooks them real good too. But the two times I met her, she seemed real cold towards me. Wouldn't even talk nor smile at all. the guy claims it's cuz she takes a while to warm up to people, so IDK.

    Quote Originally Posted by chocolatemalt View Post
    Why does she think you're cheating? Porn or something? And how does she bring out the worst?

    Have you tried couples therapy, different communication strategies, confronting shit? Seems like the best approach. And something that would help you no matter how it turns out, even if it's a "bad" outcome but you stay together for other reasons and have to endure, the therapy might give you perspective and the ability to set boundaries and expectations. Powerful shit IMO.
    She is just a plain crazy jealous rican LOL. A rican guy who I work with who I barely know once overheard me say to someone else that I married a rican woman. He walked up to me and said" Wait a minute. Did I just hear you say that you married a rican lady?"....I said "Yes"....then he said..."I'm a rican, and even I would NEVER marry a rican woman. They're CRAZY!!!!" LOL

    But she is crazy jealous about everything. Before we got married, she wanted the last names and the addresses of the last two girls I had before I knew her, or she was going to break up with me. I told her that she was crazy and that I had not even talked nor seen either one of the last two in over 6 years at that point. She said that if i wasn't willing to do that, then that meant that I have something to hide, and in that case it would be over with us. LOL....so i said ok then, I'm outta here and proceeded to open her front door, and she called me back in her house. She is just crazy jealous over nothing.

    She gave me a ride to work one day, and there was some nice looking black chick walking through the parking lot, and my wife said..."That's her isn't it?"...I said "who?"...she said,,," that black girl you used to date from work....I'm getting outta this car and I'm gonna kick her azz!!!"...I started laughing at her...and I said..."You're crazy...I never saw that girl before in my life"...(keep in mind that I work in a factory that has 3,500 employees) so my wife says..."Then if you don't know her, why was she looking over here at my car when we pulled up?"...I said "I don't know, why were you looking at her?"...No get outta here and go home, you're crazy"...LOL but she is also dominnering and stubborn and never lets me get a word in edgewise even when she isn't mad at me. She controlled all of this stuff very well before we got married. We went to two different counselors. One of them was a woman, and we went once a week for 12 weeks and it did nothing.

    Quote Originally Posted by HFO3 View Post
    Tell your boy he needs a new phone or new glasses but tbh he needs to Chill out.... if he’s ur buddy it shouldn’t matter what you send him, cause he’s ur buddy! Thats why my circle is so smalll tho... I don’t let people in that I have to wonder if I can be myself 100% of the time...

    Either way, That’s clearly the same caveman with his asss kicked ... good lord! America is breeding and nurturing “sensitive cunts”


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    Yea I hear ya man. He's ridiculous with this black stuff. he's getting worse as he gets older too.

    Quote Originally Posted by TripleOvertime View Post
    Totally agree. After a life long lesson of learning how people really are, I can count my true friends on one hand and not even count to five. People are close minded and most think they are owed something. "White man keeping the black man down" attitude is outrageous. Our founding fathers would roll over in their grave if they new how they world acted today.
    X2 I agree. Keep in mind that my other black buddy had no problem with the pics.

    Quote Originally Posted by IronRage View Post
    You should aks him if he’s ever seen the movie white girls, even if he hasn’t you know damn well he knows what it is, then tell him to take his racist head out of his racist ass and grow the fuck up
    Good point!!! I like that. BTW, are any of you who have replied so far black? I was hoping that at least one of you were.

    Quote Originally Posted by Multislacking View Post
    My thoughts exactly. "blackface"....wtf? I'd say he's a blind sensitive cunt and also a little dumb if he couldn't put two and two together from the pics if he couldn't see them clearly.
    Yeah he's deinitely coming across as ignorant on this topic.

    Quote Originally Posted by CoachCabo View Post
    But “White Girls” is ok because of the decades of oppressive black face whiteys in entertainment. “White Men Can’t Jump” wasn’t exactly the retaliation for “Black Men Can’t Speak” or “Black Men Won’t Work” though.

    People just want to get offended...at anything. I think it has something to do with low self esteem and thinking being offended increases their worth as a person.
    Yes, that's what I told him. i said that he acts like he's defensive because he's black, and I give him no reason to be after I've known him for 12 years now.

    Quote Originally Posted by IronRage View Post
    You forgot “black men can’t swim”
    LOL....

    Quote Originally Posted by CSOReaper View Post
    I would recommend that no one gets married, nor has kids, until they are at least 28-30.
    I agree

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    TD...you are *the* master of multiquotes. Hands down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CSOReaper View Post
    I love marriage personally. I say that with the concession that you took your time and married the right person. I was very young when I married, under 20. I thought I knew everything.

    When you hit about 25-27 your brain matures quickly and stops growing. It will never stop learning, only growing in size. You start to see the world, and your spousal choice, in a different light.

    I would recommend that no one gets married, nor has kids, until they are at least 28-30.

    I have looked back on mine and wondered "how could I have been so naive?". That's youth for you. Young, dumb, and full of.... well you know the saying.

    Marriage is a partnership. You and her should share the same outlook on life, kids, family, everything. It doesn't have to be a total agreement, just how you will work issues out and do it as adults. She should also back your play, no matter what or who is involved. She doesn't have to agree with you, but she can tell you that in private. Same with you toward her, ALWAYS back her up.

    Partners, intimate as well as best friends.
    I got married at 21. Hind sight is 20/20. My biggest complaint is that we rarely operate as a team. Our view on everything is vastly different and it causes a lot of problems.

    so I agree. Wait on marriage. And if she pressures you or gives you an ultimatum, let her go, and don’t take her back. Otherwise, the concept of marriage is pretty nice. If you’ve got each other’s backs it can be beautiful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    Our view on everything is vastly different and it causes a lot of problems.
    Opposites attract, though...soooo. Hard to fight what's in our nature. At least for me it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tall Deck View Post
    I actually got more ticked off than he did and I called him a retard because I was real disappointed that he was actually hinting around that I sent him a racist pic, and he should know me better than that. I don;t hate him for this incident, but I can no longer joke around with him, since he will obviously twist things, and he didn't used to be that way. It seems that ever since he got married to this female who is a Psychologist, he's taken on this extreme political correctness/black victimhood mentality. This guy was born in Haiti, but he's been here and has been a citizen since the mid 90's and his english is close to perfect. He is into drag racing like I am, and that's how we originally cliqued. He also works where i do.
    If you're both open to talking about perceptions and stereotypes, you should watch some Chris Rock and Dave Chappelle stand up shows together, over beers.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tall Deck View Post
    But she is crazy jealous about everything. Before we got married, she wanted the last names and the addresses of the last two girls I had before I knew her, or she was going to break up with me. I told her that she was crazy and that I had not even talked nor seen either one of the last two in over 6 years at that point. She said that if i wasn't willing to do that, then that meant that I have something to hide, and in that case it would be over with us. LOL....so i said ok then, I'm outta here and proceeded to open her front door, and she called me back in her house. She is just crazy jealous over nothing.

    She gave me a ride to work one day, and there was some nice looking black chick walking through the parking lot, and my wife said..."That's her isn't it?"...I said "who?"...she said,,," that black girl you used to date from work....I'm getting outta this car and I'm gonna kick her azz!!!"...I started laughing at her...and I said..."You're crazy...I never saw that girl before in my life"...(keep in mind that I work in a factory that has 3,500 employees) so my wife says..."Then if you don't know her, why was she looking over here at my car when we pulled up?"...I said "I don't know, why were you looking at her?"...No get outta here and go home, you're crazy"...LOL but she is also dominnering and stubborn and never lets me get a word in edgewise even when she isn't mad at me. She controlled all of this stuff very well before we got married. We went to two different counselors. One of them was a woman, and we went once a week for 12 weeks and it did nothing.
    You must be attracted to that jealousness or you wouldn't have married her, no?

    I remember feeling good about some chicks getting jealous at times, but learned that it quickly gets dangerous and you gotta keep your distance. And very often it's a cover for their own behavior, past or current. Take a look at their texts and emails to be sure, I say. They're probably already doing the same to you. But prepare to be shocked.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tall Deck View Post
    Good point!!! I like that. BTW, are any of you who have replied so far black? I was hoping that at least one of you were.
    We had at least a few black regulars here for a long time but they've faded away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chocolatemalt View Post

    We had at least a few black regulars here for a long time but they've faded away.
    You mean their skin turned white?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chocolatemalt View Post
    If you're both open to talking about perceptions and stereotypes, you should watch some Chris Rock and Dave Chappelle stand up shows together, over beers.



    You must be attracted to that jealousness or you wouldn't have married her, no?

    I remember feeling good about some chicks getting jealous at times, but learned that it quickly gets dangerous and you gotta keep your distance. And very often it's a cover for their own behavior, past or current. Take a look at their texts and emails to be sure, I say. They're probably already doing the same to you. But prepare to be shocked.



    We had at least a few black regulars here for a long time but they've faded away.
    The biggest thing with my mrs. is not even the insane jealousy. It's the annoying disrespect she has of everyone when she constantly interrupts people mid-sentence and talks over them. This includes me. Again, she kept this under control but before we got married, but since we were married, it's out of control and it's tough to talk to her at all about anything. her mother is the exct same way. You cannot get a word in edgewise when she talks at you. I've told my wife again and again to stop doing that, but she won't. So now I just have to walk away from her at least once a day because she does that, otherwise I'll get super angry and start yelling at her. It just plain sucks
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    Im one of the rare ones it seems, even our married friends tell us and say WTF. Wife and I just hit 30th anniversary, together since 1983 (36 years total).
    Best friend and we do everything together and are seldom w/out one another, even train together for last 25 years. Yes it is rare, even noticed by our other married friends who can barely stand one-another.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rot-Iron66 View Post
    Im one of the rare ones it seems, even our married friends tell us and say WTF. Wife and I just hit 30th anniversary, together since 1983 (36 years total).
    Best friend and we do everything together and are seldom w/out one another, even train together for last 25 years. Yes it is rare, even noticed by our other married friends who can barely stand one-another.
    That's pretty cool. You're very fortunate, very smart, or a little of both.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tall Deck View Post
    OK guys, here's the thing: My wife is a nut case, as is her whole entire family. She hid it very well, and came across to me like she was the sheep among wolves in her family, but her true colors came out. She's faithful to me, but constantly accusses me of not being faithful to her. She also brings out the worst in me. But I guess I made my bed, and I have to sleep in it. Fortunately, we don't have kids. I love kids, but she wouldn't make a good mom, and her mother would be the grandmother from hell, teaching my kid to disrespect me and disregard what i say. It's all acedemic because I'm too old to be starting a family now anyway. I don't want pre-teens to be running around the house when I'm retired.

    But here's what i really want to focus on.....the three pics....

    I sent those three pics in a text to 6 friends of mine, making fun of the rough time and tough marriage I've been enduring. Two of the guys i sent the texts and pics to are black guys, and the rest are white. None of them had any problem with those pics except for one of the black guys. He said that I shouldn't be sending him pics of a white guy with black face on his skin because that's politically incorrect.He was talking about the third picture which is in my third post here. I had no idea of what in the world he was talking about until he explained it. I told him he is a retard because that pic isn't supposed to be a white guy trying to impersonate nor mock a bkack guy. It's a pic of a cave man all beat up from being pushed off a cliff and falling down the mountain side below. So he's bruised and cut up, with one eye ball hanging out and dirt on his face.

    Which has nothing to do with any racist black face pics. The pic is a still shot I took from the 1969 Raquel Welch movie "One Million years B.C." but I posted this because i want to ask you guys if anyone here took that last pic as being racist in any way, or being an Al Jolson type black face pic. I think the guy who thought that is just plain nuts, and I don't even care to hang around the guy anymore after he made an issue out of this. Am I wrong?? What say you???
    He is wrong about the pics. First you suppose to be friends it’s fucking humor no I’ll intent. Also it’s not like you pulled the pic from the birth of a nation. Your friend went overboard. Also i am half black half white, didn’t even cross my mind when I seen the pics and I don’t even know you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    And if she pressures you or gives you an ultimatum, let her go, and don’t take her back. Otherwise, the concept of marriage is pretty nice. If you’ve got each other’s backs it can be beautiful.
    This right here...well said! My wife has one or two girlfriends that did this shit. Men bit hook line and sinker and it makes it hard to think they have a real solid foundation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tall Deck View Post
    Good point!!! I like that. BTW, are any of you who have replied so far black? I was hoping that at least one of you were.

    That’s a big part of the problem why the hell does it matter what color someone is?? Sorry TD but you’re friend is an idiot especially considering he’s from Haiti and the people there call white people the white version of the n word, among many other reasons.....

    The fact that black face is even a thing nowadays is completely ridiculous, how much ill intent could you possibly have dressing up for a Halloween party or a movie or comedy skit?? Don’t forget Dave Chappelle did the same thing too but I don’t remember any white people outraged over it

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