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    Quote Originally Posted by Augustine5I View Post
    You are not being crazy or unreasonable.

    And IMO the broke back thing is mostly a cop out so he can do what he wants.

    I agree with you when you said before about long term...what he is doing isn't sustainable. It's another get rich quick scheme that won't work.

    You can make the decision to "not" make a decision at this point in time. Give it more time.

    But I think you already have given this shit show enough time. It usually takes about 3 months to see ppl for who they really are... some hasty decisions were made which can look like poor choices. Learn from them.

    All things being equal, wouldn't you rather be really into a guy who had a real job with no bullshit?
    Id honestly rather not deal with any dudes ever. Id rather live on my own. With my furkids. And have the bed too myself and my car to myself and my snacks to myself and be able to watch my stupid tv shows by myself without commentary. Lol but here we are. Matter of the heart and shit. Duking it out between brain and feelings. Ive been single 25 out of my 28 years of existence man. Another decade or two wont hurt.

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    My response was probably a little harsh I apologize . Sounds like you love him so need to tell him all this and if he doesn't change then you need to be out

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    Quote Originally Posted by GarlicChicken View Post
    Agreed that its a get rich quick scheme. It doesn't work like that anymore with weed unfortunately. The bottom has fallen out of it because of legalization, so unless you're a full fledged expert and grow the best money can buy consistently, it's not worth shit. Even moving it to other states.
    Theres more money in it then you think. But yes. You are 100 % correct. I cant wrap my head around it either man. I stop listening honestly lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by dobs27 View Post
    Ugh. So here i am again. Hating relationships. I dont know if its because ive been single the majority of my life and i think most humans are fucking stupid. But i need some maybe tough love. I guess idk and lets face it, the boards are majority men. 96% us three females and 1 tranny get a percent each. But i cant do this shit. I dont even know if i want to do this anymore. Love is fucking stupid.
    Heres the back story.

    When babe and i met we were at the gym and would chit chat...
    He broke his back in paramedic school. ( was carrying a 450LB patient down apartment stairs, the strap slipped and when he tried to catch the weight he crushed his lower spine). Fast forward four later (hes employed). We get together and shortly after he gets fired for not getting along with staff. (Rightfully so, they didnt wanna pay him his earned hours)..this was in January.

    I terminated my lease for my apartment early because i was always at his place and we agreed to live together. Stupid. Stupid. I still hate myself for doing that.

    Two months later the landlord, his "good friend" says he wants his house back.

    We found this house on 9 acres and took it asap because it was our only option. I pay everything. He doesn't work. Hes supposed to be getting social security soon. I had bills before him. I have bills with him. I have my bills our bills and his bill. I have debt because of this house. And i hate him because of this house. Ive paid everything since march. He sold his vehicles so we have one. I had to buy a new car recently because my car had enough.

    I express my concerns with money and i get a " im sorry babe but monies " bitch when i got bills NOW. I cannot do this by myself. Maybe my train of thought would be different if we had be pre back break. But fuck this bullshit. This relationship is still to young imo for me to be handling all the shit. I cant. I fucking cant. I love him. But also cant help but think he thinks hes above everyone because he broke his back and lives on. His pain is greater then anyone else. His loss surpasses everyone.

    Im just at a loss. How long do i have to wait to get help. How much longer do i have to support and pay and stress over everything. Maybe i should just fucking leave. Maybe relations and love just arent meant for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dobs27 View Post
    I did. In the beginning it was fun. We had a good time. We got along great and laughed alot. But when we first got together it was like a breath of fresh air yano "finally someone that can hold his own. Has his own, and i wont feel like im mom as opposed to partner". Then bam. The spiral of bullshit. Im just at a crossroad and i dont know which road i want to take yet. And i dont want to regret it if i give up before letting him prove to me that he can fulfill his promises. Its not like hes not trying too. He has made good with all the other things he said he would do. Part of me wants to stay and see if we will make it. Part of me is fed up. Weve had the discussions. Weve had the arguments. I get where hes coming from but sometimes it just "another excuse". Its not like he treats me like shit. He gets up and makes me breakfast in the morning. I dont ever not feel loved by him. He treats me like a queen and quite frankly ive been treating him like peasant. Like hes less then me. I shouldn't do that. But to an extent when you start resenting someone the way you treat them changes. The resentment stains the heart. But stains fade over time.
    Fuck my life. Why am i so torn.

    I appreciate you guys talking to me about this. I cant really talk to anyone i know because theyre bias. And i dont want them to know im strugglin. The pity starts and i dont want pity. I just want clarity and perspective.



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    Shit.. If all i had to do was workout 5 days a week, go home and blaze, and then have my woman take care of me i'd cook you breakfast too...lmao..
    I'm fucking with you sis.. But if your'e doing all this shit at a minimum treating you right is the least he can do damn.. Whatever he is concocting for his future well both your futures hopefully its quick cause you said he is closing in on 40 and time goes really quick..9/11 was 18 years ago and if feels like yesterday. Things don't just happen cause you think it could happen or feel like people owe you some shit. Things happen because you earn it, you make them happen at all costs. Anyone who is successful at anything doesn't sleep till that mission is accomplished. It does't seem like this guys got that fire of ambition just some idea that the grow might work or hopes his SS gets approved which will not really change anything except that he will still be home while you work except every 3rd of the month he gets a check. Looks like you got all your brothers here for advice though sis and if we being tough about this its cause we want whats best for you but ultimately you have to decide that outcome.

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsBoogie View Post
    I feel ya!! Those of you who know from BOP now I speak very highly of my girl but last Thursday she called it quits..weve been talking but the more I think about it ...do I really want it...I say I do but do I really?


    She wanted me to give up my place and move in together...now she understands why I didn't

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    Quote Originally Posted by MGM View Post
    My response was probably a little harsh I apologize . Sounds like you love him so need to tell him all this and if he doesn't change then you need to be out
    Heard that. I did tell him. His solution was refiling for social security and gettin a grow going....sooo

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    Quote Originally Posted by dobs27 View Post
    Id honestly rather not deal with any dudes ever. Id rather live on my own. With my furkids. And have the bed too myself and my car to myself and my snacks to myself and be able to watch my stupid tv shows by myself without commentary. Lol but here we are. Matter of the heart and shit. Duking it out between brain and feelings. Ive been single 25 out of my 28 years of existence man. Another decade or two wont hurt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Liftthatishbro View Post
    Shit.. If all i had to do was workout 5 days a week, go home and blaze, and then have my woman take care of me i'd cook you breakfast too...lmao..
    I'm fucking with you sis.. But if your'e doing all this shit at a minimum treating you right is the least he can do damn.. Whatever he is concocting for his future well both your futures hopefully its quick cause you said he is closing in on 40 and time goes really quick..9/11 was 18 years ago and if feels like yesterday. Things don't just happen cause you think it could happen or feel like people owe you some shit. Things happen because you earn it, you make them happen at all costs. Anyone who is successful at anything doesn't sleep till that mission is accomplished. It does't seem like this guys got that fire of ambition just some idea that the grow might work or hopes his SS gets approved which will not really change anything except that he will still be home while you work except every 3rd of the month he gets a check. Looks like you got all your brothers here for advice though sis and if we being tough about this its cause we want whats best for you but ultimately you have to decide that outcome.
    Haha shit. Come on over. We can have a breakfast competition between you two

    Right. The thing is is he LOVES plants. Dude got that green thumb and his plants are happy as hell. Its not his first rodeo in growing. I dont smoke. It gives me anxiety. So im nonchalant about it. Lol hes passionate about the human body. And plants. Hes obsessed. I get tired of hearing it. Lol i mean if he gets approved for ss itll be 700 a month, which is better then nothing and 27K back pay check. Hes deadset. Hes gonna get it. As long as he got money coming from somewhere idgaf if he sits at home and takes care of his plants and the furbabies. I like working. I hate people but ive always worked. He says ill be able to quit my job soon. that aint gonna happen. I pay my own. My bills are my own. Our bills different story but aint no man paying my way thru life. Im not gonna owe anyone a damn thing. Yano. And if he gets that successfull with the grow. More power to ya. But i dont wanna sit at home all day. He kinda doesnt have a choice because we only have my car and the commute to work alone sucks. Filling up every other day i told him he needs to stay home until he has money to put in the tank cause i cant afford it. So he has been. Be a susie homemaker stay at home dog daddy collecting ss. Lol i just cant handle all the money by myself anymore without getting a second job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    my kind of girl... hit me up when your single

    im kidding... but I am on steroids ....

    Ill share my npp with you

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    Quote Originally Posted by dobs27 View Post

    Ill share my npp with you

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    is npp a code word? 😉😉

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    Quote Originally Posted by dobs27 View Post
    Haha shit. Come on over. We can have a breakfast competition between you two

    Right. The thing is is he LOVES plants. Dude got that green thumb and his plants are happy as hell. Its not his first rodeo in growing. I dont smoke. It gives me anxiety. So im nonchalant about it. Lol hes passionate about the human body. And plants. Hes obsessed. I get tired of hearing it. Lol i mean if he gets approved for ss itll be 700 a month, which is better then nothing and 27K back pay check. Hes deadset. Hes gonna get it. As long as he got money coming from somewhere idgaf if he sits at home and takes care of his plants and the furbabies. I like working. I hate people but ive always worked. He says ill be able to quit my job soon. that aint gonna happen. I pay my own. My bills are my own. Our bills different story but aint no man paying my way thru life. Im not gonna owe anyone a damn thing. Yano. And if he gets that successfull with the grow. More power to ya. But i dont wanna sit at home all day. He kinda doesnt have a choice because we only have my car and the commute to work alone sucks. Filling up every other day i told him he needs to stay home until he has money to put in the tank cause i cant afford it. So he has been. Be a susie homemaker stay at home dog daddy collecting ss. Lol i just cant handle all the money by myself anymore without getting a second job.

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    ...lol glad you got a laugh out that ... breakfast cook off....whoever cooks the best dish wins... that shits funny.... Ya i haven't smoked for a very very long time and all my prior jobs till present random drug test so good bye to that.. but i'm known to slam down some tequila shots... Well sounds like with all the feedback looks like you got a better sense of how to use your mind going forward.. its always difficult when you are emotionally invested clouds your judgement.. Keep us posted with how this shit goes down

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    is npp a code word?
    Naked pretty pussy.

    *i whispered that*.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Liftthatishbro View Post
    ...lol glad you got a laugh out that ... breakfast cook off....whoever cooks the best dish wins... that shits funny.... Ya i haven't smoked for a very very long time and all my prior jobs till present random drug test so good bye to that.. but i'm known to slam down some tequila shots... Well sounds like with all the feedback looks like you got a better sense of how to use your mind going forward.. its always difficult when you are emotionally invested clouds your judgement.. Keep us posted with how this shit goes down
    I like waffles...js. lol
    Yessuh. It makes me feel better that im not being crazy because was another battle i was having with myself.. lol i appreciate it and i feel better about the situation. Or at least where im at with it. Hes knows im not gonna put up with it forever. So fingers crossed the future is brighter then it appears.

    Xoxo!

    Sorry i femaled on the bodybuilder board. I figured you guys would tell me how it is. Honestly thougbt youd be meaner about it. Lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by dobs27 View Post
    Naked pretty pussy.

    *i whispered that*.


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