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    Need help motivating

    How do you guys motivate yourselves at the absolute lowest? I'm not gonna lie, if it werent for being emotionslly dead from the tren I am taking i would have probably killed myself after this last weekend because of just how shit life went in a matter of hours.



    My diet the last few days has been liquor, whatever my friend fed me while i was blackout drunk, a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of parmesan cheese thats in my fridge. I have no motivation to meal prep. No desire to even eat. Police ransacked my bedroom and I havent even bothered to clean up my room and have opted to sleep on top of whatever is on my bed.


    I mean. "Break ups make bodybuilders" but how the fuck do you even find that spark to move.


    Im sure Ill get a good number of "dont be a pussy" posts but figured maybe a fair number of you guys have been in similar spots and can relate somewhat to the spot I am in

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    Been there, done that. It sucks. The old "fake it till you make it" comes to mind. The shit situation you're in is temporary...even if it seems like it isn't.

    Goal setting usually helps. Even if it's something as simple as "I'm not going to drink today" or "I'm going to workout today". And then do it...regardless. One day at a time, and one foot in front of the other, until this is in the past.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Multislacking View Post
    Been there, done that. It sucks. The old "fake it till you make it" comes to mind. The shit situation you're in is temporary...even if it seems like it isn't.

    Goal setting usually helps. Even if it's something as simple as "I'm not going to drink today" or "I'm going to workout today". And then do it...regardless. One day at a time, and one foot in front of the other, until this is in the past.
    I think this is good advice. I'm not sure exactly what happened but so I'm not sure what kind of long term ramifications there are. Hopefully it's not too much.

    Keep your head up man, you'll get it figured out

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    When things aren't going right for myself, I put my head phones on and listen to youtube. I know its sounds dumb but turn on some motivational speech channels and listen, it gets really deep and will make you check yourself. It puts things in perspective for me, but just my input. Good luck, the clock never stops so press on

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    Well what happened?


    In the mean time take it easy on the parmesan

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    Nothing is sweeter than setting goals and achieving them. The more you have against you the better you feel. When i feel like skipping the gym, i listen to a few songs or just take the pre knowing it will will kick in. When I arrive for my workout I just remember this is what seperates us. You see the same lame ass people at the gym everyday looking the same not getting stronger not accomplishing shit.

    I started at ground 0 after my addiction. Lost my kids, no home, no car no job. I climbed out of the hole with a free spirit and goals. I have all of that back and after birthing 3 kids, working 45 hours a week, taking care of the kids and a home I still have accomplished so much.

    Here are some pics of motivation.

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    Well, at least I feel motivated now...

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    PPl will turn into themselves and focus on the gym and getting their bodies into fantastic shape when bad things happen... becomes something they can visualize and control.

    Worry only about what "you" can control. And let the rest go...

    Self medicating with booze will only spiral you further into depression. If you have to, go the gym late at night so you can occupy yourself instead of drinking.

    And find another girl asap. You will feel less lonely and needy. And give you someone to focus on instead of your ex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elit3keraed View Post
    How do you guys motivate yourselves at the absolute lowest? I'm not gonna lie, if it werent for being emotionslly dead from the tren I am taking i would have probably killed myself after this last weekend because of just how shit life went in a matter of hours.



    My diet the last few days has been liquor, whatever my friend fed me while i was blackout drunk, a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of parmesan cheese thats in my fridge. I have no motivation to meal prep. No desire to even eat. Police ransacked my bedroom and I havent even bothered to clean up my room and have opted to sleep on top of whatever is on my bed.


    I mean. "Break ups make bodybuilders" but how the fuck do you even find that spark to move.


    Im sure Ill get a good number of "dont be a pussy" posts but figured maybe a fair number of you guys have been in similar spots and can relate somewhat to the spot I am in
    I remember that feeling. I was drowning myself in liquor. As soon as I could breathe, I'd drown myself in more booze so I didn't feel like I had to breathe. I went out with the intention on getting myself into trouble, not being me anymore. I wasn't good enough. Knowing that, just made me want to drown myself even more. I had my suicide planned, everything lined up, auto-transfers set, accounts closed, beneficiaries good to go.. the works. All my info and passwords and instruction was on a blog. And I had a plan. I just had to send the one email, and I was good to go. No one knew, but it comforted me knowing peace was around the corner, sooner or later.
    I didn't give a fuck what happened to me. Whatever made it stop, I was good with.

    I can't tell you what motivated me more, deciding to be good enough for myself, or trusting that one day I'd find someone who would think that I am more than good enough for them. But if you stay in that hole, you rid yourself of that chance. You gotta find that spark for yourself. No one will or can do it for you. Dig deep, discipline yourself. Force yourself through the motions. You can control you. So do it.

    "In the absence of love, I knew not who I was. But in loving myself again my reason for being here was set alight. Even the sun noticed my fire"
    Stay strong my friend. Take your power back.

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    you look great gymprincess you did awesome tightening up i mean that with all do respect not hitting on you or nothing. I motivate myself with music of course, watching people that inspire me but most of all thinking about how I am improving and getting my body so much better and so much healthier. just the thought of being in great shape and how the hard work will pay off makes me want to get up and go hit the gym.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kudegras View Post
    you look great gymprincess you did awesome tightening up i mean that with all do respect not hitting on you or nothing. I motivate myself with music of course, watching people that inspire me but most of all thinking about how I am improving and getting my body so much better and so much healthier. just the thought of being in great shape and how the hard work will pay off makes me want to get up and go hit the gym.
    Thanks so much! It's a long process after a whole baby being there stretching everything to pieces but it is coming along. Starting my next cut soon .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Intense View Post
    Well what happened?


    In the mean time take it easy on the parmesan
    Wife left. Firearm went missing. Police were called and ransacked the place. Found all my raws but were actually chill about that.

    A couple hours of nonstop texts mostly to destroy what little shred of dignity I had. Taking a day off work because I spent several hours with PD filling out paperwork only to be told I was going to lose my job if I didnt "refocus". Lost my car and my dog.

    It may not seem like a whole lot but this sort of came out of left field and the lectures, hate messages and everything were brutal. Meant purely to just hurt me and touched on some pretty dark things in life.

    Alot of shit was my wife finally snapping. Years of tren, stress and anger and an ever increasing depression manifesting. I got my car back and I asked her to keep the dog (dog loves her more than me anyways)but even with some "positive" I just cant shake the crushing sense of doom.

    I mean, we've at least talked. We're living apart. Wife does want to work it out as a half day in the ER gave her a moment of clarity. But she knows we are in a fucked place so its basically a fucking wreck and neither of us know wtf to do (other thsn needing s fuck ton of therspy by individually and together).
    Last edited by elit3keraed; 08-02-2018 at 07:58 PM.

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    I should say this all comes on top of my life already being in a pretty crap place. Still dealing with the permanent problems left from my car accident. Broke as shit, blah blah blah. Honestly I dont hink I ever completely healed from by TBI cuz I still have moments where my reflection looks like a stranger.


    So it wasnt even a "starting from a good spot, then going downhill" but more of a "heres rock bottom, let me get you a jackhammer"

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    I think you are doing an excellent job.



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    Quote Originally Posted by elit3keraed View Post
    Wife left. Firearm went missing. Police were called and ransacked the place. Found all my raws but were actually chill about that.

    A couple hours of nonstop texts mostly to destroy what little shred of dignity I had. Taking a day off work because I spent several hours with PD filling out paperwork only to be told I was going to lose my job if I didnt "refocus". Lost my car and my dog.

    It may not seem like a whole lot but this sort of came out of left field and the lectures, hate messages and everything were brutal. Meant purely to just hurt me and touched on some pretty dark things in life.

    Alot of shit was my wife finally snapping. Years of tren, stress and anger and an ever increasing depression manifesting. I got my car back and I asked her to keep the dog (dog loves her more than me anyways)but even with some "positive" I just cant shake the crushing sense of doom.

    I mean, we've at least talked. We're living apart. Wife does want to work it out as a half day in the ER gave her a moment of clarity. But she knows we are in a fucked place so its basically a fucking wreck and neither of us know wtf to do (other thsn needing s fuck ton of therspy by individually and together).

    Wait, they were pretty chill about that? Do you know what she told the police that allowed them to search your house? You do realize how lucky you are in that regard don't you


    I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would be fucking livid. Sounds like you need to cruise for a while and if she wants to work it out and you do as well then do just that and get into some counseling. Focus on making you better so you can be the best man you can be for yourself and her.

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