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Life/Marriage question. Looking for help

bababoeyasf

bababoeyasf

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Ok so i dont really know where else to go with this and im sick of struggling with it in my own head. Im going to save the sugar coating and just make this blunt and real so people get a real idea of whats going on. I have a wife of two years she is beautiful fit loyal and the best wife you could ever ask for she cooks cleans does the dishes i mean no joke shes perfect super laid back doesnt bitch doesnt complain i mean never ever. Since i first met her though i have never been crazy about her. I see all her good qualities and thats why i wanted to date her and evevtually we got married. On paper she is perfect however her personality is kinda DUD. she smiles laughs but never has much to say isnt a deep thinker. I cant ever have a conversation with her on anything political or current events. I am a talker and a thinker and my whole family is so ill get off the phone with my dad talking about some current issue for half hour and then i go home tell her my opinion on it all and shes will go "yeah thats wierd". I mean its always two three words thats all you get out of her. Ive tried to tell her this is an issue she says its just her and its always been her and shes right. The problem is im 28, I love my life. I love coming home to a clean house i love our dogs i love she cooks and does all the choirs. this hurts to say but i dont love her. What do i do? Focus on the good aspects and stay with her or since im young and dont have kids get out of the marriage and find a real love? I have met and loved girls for thier personalities so i know its out there. But i know she will take my dogs who i love to death she will be gone ill be stuck with all the choirs in a lonely house money will be tighter. LONG READ I KNOW SORRY but someone please help
 
Oh and i forgot to add another thing i really struggle with is she loves me and she is perfect. She didnt cheat im not mad at her i dont hate her i couldnt say a bad word about her. So the idea of leaving her i know would wreck for for at least the immediate future and putting her through that makes me feel sick. I love her so much im not just not IN LOVE with her. Sometimes i think since its not so bad i should save her the pain and stick it out. Then other days i want to really love someone with all my heart in the IN LOVE way.
 
That's not good but there are worse things.............talk to her about it, tell her you need oral stimulation..........wut???
 
Your 28 and I am guessing she is the same age...... Would she be a great mom?????????

I understand your situation as I had the same happen. I just decided to change my thinkings from being a little selfish to giving her everything she could ever ask for. Inturn got her preggo.

My ending thought is give my wife the perfect life she could ever dream about and If I am really unhappy - I just go fuck trannies.
 
I am In the same boat bud.I get like this when I'm on tes ..Some reason tes makes you think strange things I promise you if you say all that about her you better keep her it would be better to have a wife that don't talk than a lazy ass slut that the only thing she's good for is to fuck:)
 
She is amazing with the dogs and i think she would be a good mom once a kid came. However she always didnt want kids and yes shes 28. My sister has two kids a 3 year old and a 6 month old both super cute girls. My wife has never held either she pays zero attention to them ive never heard even say anything about the youngest baby and we see them at family dinner once a week. The only thing she will ever say is the kids are giving me a headache they are so loud. Then i meet a girl at the gym or wherever who has a bright smart personality and is so sweet to kids and seeing a girl be nurturing and motherly is a big turn on because my wife isnt at all
 
Girls at the gym are ONLY for the spank bank.

If you leave your wife for another chick, you will slowly realize ALL women are psychopaths and you miss what you had with the quiet one..
 
This is the feedback i get from everyone my friends and family and you guys are all right. It could be Worse it could be so much worse. She doesnt spend money at all shes thrifty she doesnt drink much doesnt have guy friends doesnt flirt doesnt go out to bars. So i know it could be so much worse but not to sound girly but sometimes man you wanna really love someone the way i see my friends with thier girls
 
Hell maybe she don't like other peoples kids.Just knock her ass up she will like her own she won't have a choice.lol
 
Are you leaking from your nips?

Sounds like you need Aromasin STAT!
 
she doesnt have a bad bone in her body i know if she had her own kid she would be sweet to them. Its fucked up though i have a brother in my situation but hes 46 and hes like it never changes man. My brother said if he came home today and his wife was leaving her for another guy he would be happy. He just doesnt wanna be the one to leave and hurt her and look like the bad guy and honestly guys im the same. If she was leaving me i wouldnt give a single shit
 
Why? If she cooks, cleans, bends over when asked, what else are you looking for? What is in your mind's eye that would categorize something as "love"?
 
I know i am talking to geared guys who aren't super touchey feely lol but I am telling you she's a hot house keeper who's damn near mute. All her good qualities are she's bascially a robot step ford wife. When a girl can talk and be engaging and smart and clever and caring I just makes me wish I had that with her. My mom mad cancer she never once asks she just has no personality I can't talk or communicate with her on anything. Love is built thru your connection with someone
 
Your thoughts about love are absolutely childish bullshit. Fairy tale faggocity. IF and I say IF she loves you with your grass is always greener on the other side mentality, I honestly hope she gets over it and leaves your ass. You are not yet a man. Grow up, get over yourself and thank God that he has allowed such a wonderful gal to stay with your arrogant, egotistical self.
Sorry to sound so harsh, but the reality is love takes work. It's not like all the stars line up, and angels play harps and rainbows fall out of eagles assholes. Good woman are hard to find. Man the fuck up and do right by her.
 
hightestfuel said:
Your thoughts about love are absolutely childish bullshit. Fairy tale faggocity. IF and I say IF she loves you with your grass is always greener on the other side mentality, I honestly hope she gets over it and leaves your ass. You are not yet a man. Grow up, get over yourself and thank God that he has allowed such a wonderful gal to stay with your arrogant, egotistical self.
Sorry to sound so harsh, but the reality is love takes work. It's not like all the stars line up, and angels play harps and rainbows fall out of eagles assholes. Good woman are hard to find. Man the fuck up and do right by her.
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I've done extensive marriage counseling and I couldn't agree more with this.

I'm sorry op. But your perspective on "being in love" and what marriage is, is heavily flawed. I understand what you mean, but your wife isn't meant to fill every need you have. Pm me if you have more to ask. Be happy to talk
 
...this is a great example about why it's nice to be old, i am older than 'dirt', but still miss the GF i had in my late teens early 20's, a beauty, built, smart , and she loved me... It sounds like what you have going on, and trust me bro , i'm not laughing at you, but you will fuck it up and regret it all your life.. an old expression but a true one is, 'a good woman is hard to find' or 'you never know what you have until it's gone'... I saw my xGF about 25 yrs later, she was very hot, she was always pretty, very sexy !! Now she's a yoga teacher, with a daughter[not mine], and she still treated me kindly with affection, but married[me too],,, she was the best chick i ever had.... [the end][for me]...
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If she never talked she would be the perfect wife. I suggest stuffing your cawk in her mouth as often as possible to shut her up.
Solid Pit advise right there.
 
charley said:
...this is a great example about why it's nice to be old, i am older than 'dirt', but still miss the GF i had in my late teens early 20's, a beauty, built, smart , and she loved me... It sounds like what you have going on, and trust me bro , i'm not laughing at you, but you will fuck it up and regret it all your life.. an old expression but a true one is, 'a good woman is hard to find' or 'you never know what you have until it's gone'... I saw my xGF about 25 yrs later, she was very hot, she was always pretty, very sexy !! Now she's a yoga teacher, with a daughter[not mine], and she still treated me kindly with affection, but married[me too],,, she was the best chick i ever had.... [the end][for me]...
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Nudes or negs- your decision! Lol
 
Get Shredded!
See this is why I posted this. This seems to be coming from someone who knows and maybe it's just what I needed to hear. Maybe I should realize I have flaws too and focus on her good qualities and the good qualities of the life we share
orange24 said:
I've done extensive marriage counseling and I couldn't agree more with this.

I'm sorry op. But your perspective on "being in love" and what marriage is, is heavily flawed. I understand what you mean, but your wife isn't meant to fill every need you have. Pm me if you have more to ask. Be happy to talk
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Talk to her and work on it you fag.
 
bababoeyasf said:
See this is why I posted this. This seems to be coming from someone who knows and maybe it's just what I needed to hear. Maybe I should realize I have flaws too and focus on her good qualities and the good qualities of the life we share
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I'm sorry but I could not disagree more. If she is not on the same intellectual level as you are then she is not an intellectually fulfilling partner. What? Are you supposed to be happy with somebody that is good at cleaning house? Get a maid.
 
bababoeyasf said:
Ok so i dont really know where else to go with this and im sick of struggling with it in my own head. Im going to save the sugar coating and just make this blunt and real so people get a real idea of whats going on. I have a wife of two years she is beautiful fit loyal and the best wife you could ever ask for she cooks cleans does the dishes i mean no joke shes perfect super laid back doesnt bitch doesnt complain i mean never ever. Since i first met her though i have never been crazy about her. I see all her good qualities and thats why i wanted to date her and evevtually we got married. On paper she is perfect however her personality is kinda DUD. she smiles laughs but never has much to say isnt a deep thinker. I cant ever have a conversation with her on anything political or current events. I am a talker and a thinker and my whole family is so ill get off the phone with my dad talking about some current issue for half hour and then i go home tell her my opinion on it all and shes will go "yeah thats wierd". I mean its always two three words thats all you get out of her. Ive tried to tell her this is an issue she says its just her and its always been her and shes right. The problem is im 28, I love my life. I love coming home to a clean house i love our dogs i love she cooks and does all the choirs. this hurts to say but i dont love her. What do i do? Focus on the good aspects and stay with her or since im young and dont have kids get out of the marriage and find a real love? I have met and loved girls for thier personalities so i know its out there. But i know she will take my dogs who i love to death she will be gone ill be stuck with all the choirs in a lonely house money will be tighter. LONG READ I KNOW SORRY but someone please help
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You could dump her a try for better but you might ultimately do worse. I feel like that happened to me once.

Factor that into your decision making process.
 
Skip Foursome said:
I'm sorry but I could not disagree more. If she is not on the same intellectual level as you are then she is not an intellectually fulfilling partner. What? Are you supposed to be happy with somebody that is good at cleaning house? Get a maid.
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maybe, maybe not...

its entirely possible she was raised not to argue with "the man of the house"
or is an extreme introvert ...
maybe Im projecting but the jack doesnt has some engaging convos with me but also perceives some things as arguing and gets more or less mute..it kind of drives me nuts
hes also extra introverted so in public he just sort of observes most of the time.


so yeah...I might be projecting but one side of the story is never entuirely accurate because its just one persons perception of whats going on
 
How is she in the sack? Seriously....? Is she a dud there too or is it real life porn? Basically does the sex go with the personality? Im guessing not.

I personally couldnt handle a dead or boring fuck. That would be a deal breaker no matter what.

Other than that I have to agree with highest fuel....basically, you're 28 and you dont get it ;)
 
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Sheriv said:
maybe, maybe not...

its entirely possible she was raised not to argue with "the man of the house"
or is an extreme introvert ...
maybe Im projecting but the jack doesnt has some engaging convos with me but also perceives some things as arguing and gets more or less mute..it kind of drives me nuts
hes also extra introverted so in public he just sort of observes most of the time.


so yeah...I might be projecting but one side of the story is never entuirely accurate because its just one persons perception of whats going on
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Yah, but he's still banging you, so he's not a total loser .........
 
The sex is good guys im telling you the only complaint is she more or less has no real personality. Even my friends who knew her in high school will say shes nice but never has had more than two words to say. When i was younger it bothered me less. I spent alot of time with my friends still whatever and then they started to get married ive been seeing them less. My friends have their own kids and lives now so i find life being just me and her. So the issues are starting be more apparent. We will be sitting around and ill go man did you see that about ISIS? she goes no what? she doesnt follow any current events. I explain it all too her and she will go EWWW they cut his head off gross! end of conversation. I know you guys think im young and immature and im sure i am but i think looking at it going shes hot and cooks and lets you fuck her! shut up and be happy! i feel like thats more how i felt when i was younger and less mature. Now that im growing up i imagine what happenes when my parents pass away. WHen my friends have lost contact with me. Life gets to a point where its just you and your spouse. And if you have nothing in commmon with that person its kinda lonely. HOWEVER i also see leaving her as being something i regret given all her good qualities. IM constantly stuck in the middle. Ive talked to her about we have been to counseling and i hear all the same feedback im hearing now when i talk to my friends. I know i need to shit or get off the pot its just tough not knowing which is the right path
 
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