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    The way that you approach your relationship with the woman can end up causing it to be a very stressful and frustrating experience for you, or an easy and enjoyable experience for you.
    So, in this video, I will talk about some of the mistakes guys make that cause a relationship to become stressful and frustrating for them and what you should do instead to make it easy and enjoyable.
    Letís begin with number 1Ö
    1. Creating a relationship dynamic based on the fear of getting dumped, usually leads to it happening


    For example: A guy gives his woman too much power in the relationship and allows himself to be walked all over by her because he fears getting dumped if he doesnít let her get her way.
    On the flip side, another guy doesnít allow his woman to have any power or say because he fears getting cheated on or dumped if he doesnít control her.
    In both cases, the guy is acting out of fear and thatís not the way to have an easy, enjoyable relationship with a woman.
    Thatís going to cause a relationship to be stressful and frustrating.
    In the first example, where a guy is letting a woman walk all over him and doing whatever she wants to do and giving her all the power, thatís going to be very frustrating for him because no matter what he does for her, itís never going to be enough.
    Sheís never going to truly respect him, feel attracted to him and be in love with him.
    Instead, she will see him as a bit of an annoyance, a burden and as someone that sheís with, but isnít quite sure about.
    She is turned off by him, she is frustrated around him and she may or may not know why.
    In cases like that, a guyís biggest fear is getting dumped or cheated on and thatís what usually ends up happening to him because his woman just doesnít feel like sheís in love with him.
    She canít respect him and she doesnít feel enough attraction for him, so it usually ends with her cheating on him or dumping him.
    With the other example, some guys go to the other extreme, where they donít give their woman any power and they walk all over her.
    The guy doesnít allow her to have any say, he tries to control her, he is very jealous and protective because heís worried that she might cheat on him or leave him if he lets her out of his sight.
    In cases like that, the woman feels smothered by his neediness and turned off by his insecurity.
    She doesnít respect him.
    She doesnít feel attracted to him and she canít remain in love with him.
    So, if you want to make a relationship with a woman easy and enjoyable, you have to let go of your fear.
    You have to let go of the fear of potentially being left or cheated on, because if you focus on being left or cheated on, it will change your behavior in a negative way.
    You will start worrying about things that you donít need to worry about.
    You will stop behaving in ways that are uncharacteristic of you (e.g. cool, laid back, easygoing, relaxed), or you may become jealous, controlling, needy and so on.
    Behaving in those ways isnít attractive to women and only pushes them away.
    If you want to attract a woman to you and keep her with you, then you have to let go of your fear.
    You have to know that you are good enough for her and know that you and her are becoming an increasingly better couple over time, so there is no reason for her to leave you.
    Yet, how can you become an increasingly better couple over time?
    How can you make her feel increasingly attracted to you?
    How can you make her feel like she doesnít want to leave you?
    Well, itís definitely not about doing more and more for her.
    Itís definitely not about putting loads of work to the relationship.
    That is a frustrating, stressful way to approach relationships.
    You do not have to do that.
    On that note, letís discuss number 2Ö
    2. Putting way more effort into the relationship than a woman does, isnít the way to get her to fall more and more in love with you

    When a relationship first starts out and a couple is falling in love, having sex and enjoying each otherís company, a guy will usually feel confident about his position in the womanís life.
    He will look at her and say that she wants to be with him.
    He will feel confident about that and as a result, heíll be enjoying the relationship.
    Yet, somewhere along the line, the woman may begin to test him by pulling back some interest and seeing how he reacts.
    Does he become insecure?
    Does he start sucking up to her and try to get her to show love to him the way she used to by doing more and more for her?
    Does he fall into that trap, or does he understand that the way to get a woman to fall more and more in love with him isnít about doing more and more for her?
    Instead, itís about bringing out her good girl side, making her want to be good to him, making her respect him, treat him well, be affectionate, be attentive and more importantly, for her to enjoy doing that.

    That is what really works with a woman.
    That is what makes her fall more and more in love with you because pretty much every other guy that a woman has met cannot make her behave in that way for very long.
    Itís very easy to have a woman behave that way at the start of the relationship, but getting her to behave in that way 2, 3, 10 years, 20 years into a relationship; that is what makes a woman fall more and more in love with a guy.
    When he makes her feel motivated to treat him well, to be attentive, to be good to him and she actually enjoys it.
    That is what works.
    3. Relationships are not hard work

    A common phrase that some people say when referring to their relationship and how theyíve managed to make it work and keep it together is ďHard workÖa lot of hard work. Relationships are hard work. You have to put in loads of hard work.Ē
    For them, that is true because theyíre using an ineffective approach.
    For example: A guy takes his womanís tantrums too seriously.
    He takes her tests too seriously.
    She starts testing his confidence by being a little bit difficult at times and he takes it too seriously.
    He takes it personally.
    He gets annoyed with her.
    He gets into arguments with her.

    Thatís an ineffective approach and it leads to a frustrating, stressful relationship.
    An effective approach that leads to an easy enjoyable relationship is to not take a womanís tests seriously.
    Now, thatís not to say that a man shouldnít take anything that his woman says seriously.
    Instead, what Iím saying is that when a woman is acting up and being a bit of a pain in the butt, teasing him, trying to put him down and make him feel insecure, a man doesnít have to take that seriously.
    He doesnít have to take it personally.
    He doesnít have to get involved in the drama.
    He can laugh at her.
    He can turn it into a joke.
    He doesnít have to take it seriously.
    Men who are in control in their relationship with a woman donít take her BS seriously.
    I say BS because when many women are asked what type of guy they really want to be with and they list off qualities, they say things like, ďA man who doesnít take my BS seriouslyĒ or, ďA man who doesnít put up with my BS.Ē
    Now, thatís not to say that a man should treat his woman badly, put her down, get angry at her or anything like that.
    Instead, what Iím saying is that a man doesnít always have to take a womanís drama seriously.
    He doesnít have to get dragged into drama.
    He can laugh at her for being a bit of a drama queen, or just for fun, he can briefly get involved in the drama and turn it into something for them to laugh about.
    He doesnít have to take it as a personal attack.
    He doesnít have to start getting emotional with his woman.
    He doesnít have to put in loads of hard work and tiptoe around to her to hopefully not set her off, to hopefully not make her feel annoyed.
    He doesnít have to take that approach to the relationship.
    He can take a much more relaxed approach and not take her BS seriously.
    For example: A bit of BS behavior from a woman where she doesnít want her man to take it seriously, is if theyíre deciding where to go and eat that night or what type of food to eat.
    He might suggest eating Chinese, or Indian, or something like that and then she might say something like, ďYou always come up with stupid ideas. I donít want to eat that. I hate Indian food. I hate Chinese food. Your ideas are stupid.Ē
    At that point, a man can get angry at his woman, get frustrated and get into a pointless argument with her and he will have a stressful, frustrating relationship.
    Alternatively, he can decide not to take her fake BS seriously.
    So, if he didnít take it seriously, he get say jokingly something like this, ďOkay then Miss Smartypants, what ideas have you got then?Ē or, ďMy ideas are stupid. No, no, no. You donít like Chinese food because youíre not cool. Only losers donít eat Chinese food. Youíre a little loserĒ or, ďAlright, so you donít want to eat Chinese, you donít want to eat Indian, my ideas are stupid, okay. Well, how about this? Get your little butt in the kitchen and make some food. Make yourself useful.Ē
    Of course, when a guys says that to a woman, heís only joking.
    Heís not saying it seriously and saying something like this.
    ďAlright, well, get your butt in the kitchen then, make yourself useful!!!Ē
    Heís not being angry about it.
    Heís not getting into a pointless argument with a woman.
    You donít need to get dragged into the fake drama that a woman is creating. You donít have to take it seriously.
    Now, I just want to point out again here that Iím not saying that a man shouldnít take a woman seriously in a relationship.
    There are times when a woman is being serious.
    There are times when a man has said or done something wrong that he should be taking seriously, he should apologize for, he should change and adjust, etc.
    Thatís fine.
    Yet, when a woman creates unnecessary drama in the relationship and a man gets involved in that and then starts to worry about experiencing that type of drama again, his relationship can become a lot of hard work.
    He can get in to the habit of trying to not set her off, by tiptoeing around her and making sure that heís saying all the right things, behaving in all the right ways to hopefully ensure that she doesnít start creating any drama.
    Heís afraid of that in a way.
    He doesnít want to have to experience that because it could result in her not want to have sex with him.
    It could result in her saying that sheís not going to cook anymore, or that sheís not going to clean and so on.
    He doesnít want to annoy or like that.
    Therefore, his relationship becomes a lot of hard work because heís taking her drama and her tests too seriously.
    Heís slowly letting her walk all over him and heís losing his balls in the process.
    4. Turning sex into something that youíre getting from her, gradually makes her stop wanting it

    An example of this, is if a couple are sitting on the couch together and the woman initiates affection.
    The guy then behaves as though heís shocked and giddy that getting something from her. He shows her that heís feeling lucky that he is being touched by her in that way.
    That turns her off.
    Whatís going to turn her on is reacting in a masculine way (see video at the top of this page for example), or in a way thatís going to make her feel more attracted in that moment and may potentially lead to kissing and sex right then and there.
    What often happens for a lot of guys, is that their woman is initially interested in sex when the relationship begins and maybe for the first couple of years, but after that, she gradually starts to lose interest in sex and essentially doesnít want it anymore.
    Either that or she just doesnít initiate.
    She seems like she could take it or leave it.
    Who cares?
    Itís just sex.
    That happens when the guy creates a dynamic where it seems like sex is about him getting something from her.
    He wants to have sex with her because he wants to feel good, he wants to be close with her, he wants to experience that.
    Itís all about what he wants from her.
    Now, if you think about that in a pick-up scenario when a guy trying to pick-up woman; heís trying to hopefully pick the woman up.
    Heís trying to get her to like him to hopefully get somewhere.
    How does that work out for guys when theyíre using that approach with a woman?
    The woman feels like she is the more valuable one and if she gives this guy a chance, sheís essentially going to be doing him a favor.
    She doesnít feel like he is the more valuable one and she would be lucky to get with him.
    The same fundamental principle applies in a relationship.
    The best approach to take, is to create a dynamic where sex is something that she is exciting to get from you.
    Itís something that she wants and she needs to feel good about herself and feel connected with you.
    Yet, if a guy creates a dynamic where everything related to sex is about him getting that from her, then she will close up.
    Her interest in sex will gradually to dwindle away.
    5. Being emotionally fearless in a relationship will give you far greater rewards than being emotionally guarded

    An example of this, is where a guy has been heartbroken by a previous relationship breaking down.
    When he gets into a new relationship, he keeps an emotional distance from his woman.
    He doesnít want to get too close with her.
    He doesnít want to put himself out there too much in case he gets hurt.
    Yet, as a result of using that approach, there isnít a deep, enjoyable, emotional connection between him and his woman and the relationship become stale.
    In some cases, it will then lead to the woman breaking up with the guy and if he really did want to be with her and was just being emotionally guarded because he didnít want to get hurt, heís going to regret it.
    Heís going to regret that he wasnít more emotionally fearless.
    He was trying to protect himself so much that he ended up creating a relationship dynamic that didnít have an enjoyable emotional connection.
    So, whatís the solution?
    The solution isnít for a guy to go on and on about his emotions like a girl.
    It isnít about becoming very emotional and talking about feelings all the time and so on.
    Instead, itís about being emotionally fearless, not being afraid of the consequences of saying ďI love youĒ to a woman, not being afraid to fall more and more in love with a woman and enjoy the next levels to a relationship.
    Additionally, being emotionally fearless isnít a about a guy telling a woman how much he loves her all the time.
    Itís not about a guy becoming obsessed with a woman and saying, ďI love you. Youíre the best. Youíre the best woman Iíve ever had. I would be lost without you. Youíre amazing. All I want is youĒ and so on.
    Thatís not what Iím talking about.
    Itís about being emotionally fearless in the relationship, not worrying about the consequences of loving a woman, not trying to protect yourself from potentially getting hurt if you put yourself out there.
    The thing is, if you look at breakup and divorce statistics and you see 50% breakups or 60%, 30%, 40%, whatever it is depending on the country, it may make you feel like that could happen to you too.
    It could.
    Yet, what I recommend, is that you focus on the OTHER side of that statistic.
    If itís a 50% break or divorce rate in your country, then realize 50% of those relationships stay together for life and understand that you can be one of the couples who happily stay together for life.
    Additionally, understand that there are ways that you can go about your relationship that makes it easy and enjoyable and makes you and your woman fall more and more in love over time.
    Okay, on that note, I hope you enjoy this video and if you do want to learn more about how to keep a relationship together for life, how to make your woman respect you, feel attracted to you and be totally in love with you, then I recommend that you watch or listen to my program Make Her Love You For Life.
    Make Her Love You For Life is the ideal relationship dynamic that causes a woman to feel increasingly respectful, attracted and in love with you over time.
    It brings out her good girl side where she wants to be good to you, where she actually feels good and gains happiness by being a good woman to you.
    Bringing Out Her Good Girl Side


    One final point that I want to make for you in this video, is that the dynamic in a relationship can be changed.
    If a man has created a relationship dynamic where his woman isnít respectful of him, doesnít initiate affection, doesnít treat him as well as she used to, it doesnít mean that he canít change the dynamic of the relationship and get her to respect him, be affectionate and treat them well.
    Pretty much every woman out there has it inside of her to be a good woman in a relationship; to treat her man well.
    She has that inside of her and one of the really interesting things about it is that when a guy brings that side of a woman out in a relationship, she respects him, feels attracted to him and loves him so much more.
    The fact that he can bring that side of her out and keep it out makes her happy to be who she is.
    It makes her happy to be alive.
    It makes her enjoy the relationship.
    It makes her enjoy her life.
    Of course, more importantly, itís much more enjoyable for the man as well.
    The Easy Way to Get Her to Love You Again

    Getting her to love you, respect you, touch you and want you the way she did in the beginning, isn't difficult at all.
    In fact, it's one of the easiest things you'll ever do.
    So, if your woman isn't showing you the respect, love and affection you deserve, watch this eye-opening, life-changing video by Dan Bacon to find out what you've been missing.
    You will discover what she has been WAITING for you to do, but will probably never tell you about.
    It's so simple and it works.
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    Good advice. After 23 years together with mine (18 married) I FINALLY figured out the reason we are together- we just both agree not to leave. I still "game" her, with tons of push/pull. Also, I think something else not often mentioned, but absolutely necessary, is that she knows that other women are attracted to you... subtly. Women don't want something that is repulsive to other women.

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    "Men who are in control in their relationship with a woman donít take her BS seriously."

    Golden advice right here. Don't let her get you pissed off...that's when you make mistakes.

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    Why do women have to be so fucking complicatedÖ

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonsterMaker View Post
    Why do women have to be so fucking complicatedÖ
    Theyíre so complicated, they canít even figure each other out.

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    They don't know what they want...
    Just don't want this..!!

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    The only piece I can really attest to is the bit about being over protective or being afraid to loose her or get cheated on usually end in her doing just that. Iím very adamant about this. My wife is very well aware that if she fucks with me or pills any stunts I wonít think twice to leave her ass. A relationship isnít that important to me that I would put up with that ever and I can always find someone elseÖ I think that reality really keeps her in check, and I also think she really cares/has family valuesÖ. But Iíll be damned if I get walked over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonsterMaker View Post
    The only piece I can really attest to is the bit about being over protective or being afraid to loose her or get cheated on usually end in her doing just that. Iím very adamant about this. My wife is very well aware that if she fucks with me or pills any stunts I wonít think twice to leave her ass. A relationship isnít that important to me that I would put up with that ever and I can always find someone elseÖ I think that reality really keeps her in check, and I also think she really cares/has family valuesÖ. But Iíll be damned if I get walked over.
    You have kids?

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    https://www.mediafire.com/file/pj3vv...ships.pdf/file

    Great advice.

    Want to add this pdf... create the relationship you want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Augustine5I View Post
    You have kids?
    Ya but that doesnít change the fact

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonsterMaker View Post
    Ya but that doesnít change the fact
    yes it does. Give yourself a few years and im sure youíll understand the dynamics of having kids with a woman changes. Itís much much harder to leave when you know your kids are at the mercy of a woman you disagree with on fundamental values. That, and women usually end up with the house, kids and alimony. You know, behind every strong independent women thereís usually a miserable, disgruntled baby daddy shelling out half his paycheck and only being able to see his kids every other weekend. Lol

    everyone says what you said until they end up in that situation.

    but I do agree with the approach of not putting up with drama bullshit. I laugh at my wife daily. Almost non stop. I love her and sheís a great mother but damn can she be a pain in the ass sometimes. And she definitely struggles with common sense occasionally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    yes it does. Give yourself a few years and im sure youíll understand the dynamics of having kids with a woman changes. Itís much much harder to leave when you know your kids are at the mercy of a woman you disagree with on fundamental values. That, and women usually end up with the house, kids and alimony. You know, behind every strong independent women thereís usually a miserable, disgruntled baby daddy shelling out half his paycheck and only being able to see his kids every other weekend. Lol

    everyone says what you said until they end up in that situation.

    but I do agree with the approach of not putting up with drama bullshit. I laugh at my wife daily. Almost non stop. I love her and sheís a great mother but damn can she be a pain in the ass sometimes. And she definitely struggles with common sense occasionally.
    Ok then It changes the fact for you, you cannot speak for me though. And Iím telling you if I caught my wife sucking and fucking another man, she gets to walk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Augustine5I View Post
    https://www.mediafire.com/file/pj3vv...ships.pdf/file

    Great advice.

    Want to add this pdf... create the relationship you want.
    "Love is creative and fear is destructive"

    "All a dead fish can do is react. If you put a dead fish in a stream, it just reacts to everything, every rock, every branch, every flow of water. Dead things react. Like you said, live fish don't react, they create. They create a path through the water or through the stream depending on where they want to go. That's so great. Reacting is done by dead things. If we just react to other people all day, we are already dead. We are a dead thing responding the to life of another person."

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonsterMaker View Post
    Ok then It changes the fact for you, you cannot speak for me though. And Iím telling you if I caught my wife sucking and fucking another man, she gets to walk.
    and Iím telling you itís not as easy as you think it is. Especially when you look into your childrenís heartbroken eyes and you carry your shit out of the house and hear them say ďwhy are you leaving daddy, what did I do wrongĒ

    Iím not saying you wouldnít be right to leave... Iím just saying as a father... youíll second guess yourself, might even try to fix the marriage just to keep your kids from having to grow up in a broken home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milford King View Post
    and Iím telling you itís not as easy as you think it is. Especially when you look into your childrenís heartbroken eyes and you carry your shit out of the house and hear them say ďwhy are you leaving daddy, what did I do wrongĒ

    Iím not saying you wouldnít be right to leave... Iím just saying as a father... youíll second guess yourself, might even try to fix the marriage just to keep your kids from having to grow up in a broken home.
    My kids are number one man Iíll give ya that, they seriously breathe life and purpose into my soul. Same goes for my wife. That being said letís just hope I never have to find out what I may or may not do in such unfortunate circumstancesÖ I believe that if the couple both puts in the work to raise a happy family and both people want that happy stable family more than anything then I donít think promiscuity is even a concern or an option as we all know how that can rot a family to the core Ö Iíve literally got zero worries in that department . This family is everything to us and we really donít even have lives outside of thatÖ not that thatís a problem (having personal life friends etc) but we just donít have a desire, we get everything we need from under this one roofÖ.

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