when i was a kid i never really bonded with my dad , he was always working and for whatever reason i always felt uncomfortable sitting on the couch watching tv with my parents when i was that age,, i would always go to my neighbors and it seemed like everyone else father was so much cooler,, my dad was never a real a=emotional guy. never really showed much love , although i knew he loved me we just didnt have that connection....
anyway long story short when my sister had kids he was now a grandpa,,, my sis and her husband were very loving and always hugging the kids and always interested in their daily life... my dad didnt want to miss out again so he used to go to all my nephews ball games , never missed one while they where growing up....
one day when i was about 30 years old my dad gave me a card . it said he was sorry he wasnt around for me like he should have been and just wanted to let me know that he loved me very much, (which i already knew cause he was always there to bail my ass out of jail and put a roof over my head)
what i didnt know is that other people (his employees) really loved him and looked up to him and what a great man he really was... i never saw that side of him until i started working for one of the companies he owned,,, anyway i can remember telling myself when i was younger i dont ever want to grow up to be like my dad.... now that i really know him and the struggles he had and all the things he has accomplished in his life i say i hope one day i can only hope to become half the man he is....
I work for one of the companies he helped build about 25 years ago .. he stepped down as president and retired prob 5 years ago now.
and at least once a week someone asks me either a customer or employee.. hey hows your dad doing? he was the best.
and i say he is doing great... and they say you certainly had some big shoes to fill... tell him i said hi....
you know what always gets me , when i hear that song cats in the cradle. thats so me and my dad
anyway man just be there for him , he will come around