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As some of you may remember the instance of my step daughter getting bullied at school and online some time back, in which landed her in a mental hosp (BTW she is doing amazing these days and loving life).. I was very pro active in finding a resolution at her school, and with other parents regarding these kids involved and all went well to my surprise..
Well, I'm back again with a much similar situation however the tables have turned.. (I'm heart broken)
My biological daughter who I have joint custody of, she lives a few blocks away with her mother has been involved with some bullying, and it found its way to social media..I raised my children to be advocates of fairness,equality and acceptance along with love and compassion..(so I thought)
She's a minor (16) who's been seeing a boy that's 18-19 (I don't agree with this and had my words with him to stay away)..
I found out that she was provoking a situation with an other young man, dragging her boyfriend into the middle..I did some leg work and to my utter shock this young man has no issues with either my daughter and her dead beat boyfriend..(a mutual friend/parent relaid intell for me)..
Just the other night I find out that my daughter set this boy up to meet her, and her boyfriend was there and this young man ending up getting pulverized.
Apparently is was caught on camera and then placed on social media to degrade this young man..I don't have social media however a mutual parent showed me the clip, and I was completely disgusted on what I seen..The kid didn't stand a chance and never seen it coming..
I had words with my daughter, as I'm utterly in shock and very disappointed in her action..She's made excuses about what happened, and I don't wish to hear them..Now here is where I have decided to take action, some real street action..
I made an attempt to reach out to this young man that was victimized, and had a discussion with him, I extended my embarrassment and disgust for the entire situation and apologized..I told him that I will locate this bully (my daughters BF) and hold him in place and let this kid have his way with him, and if this bully tries to defend himself I will slap him each time he blocks (he is a legal adult).. Further more, I reached out to my contacts,networks and good friends and they have decided to let this young man come train at the school (juijitsu) for 3 months free (hopefully this a game changer for the young man and builds some confidence)..
My daughter is currently not speaking with me, as she feels I sided with this young man in lieu of her, but this isnt about her, its about a victim of bullying..
(Daddies little girl or not, she was in the wrong)
End of rant, the truth unfolds that it was all over nonsense, this young man simply didn't do a damn thing wrong and got caught up in the wrong group is kids (dramatic girls)..
Any advice on what to do here? I have a zero tolerance for such crap and my heart is broken that my daughter would do such a thing.. I'm extremely disappointed in her..Her boy friends on the other hand has it coming (dead beat,drop out, jobless pot head thug wanna-be)..He's dodging me and laying low, I'll find him...
Do I have a dog n this fight? (BTW his father hasn't been in his life since he was a young kid)
Well, I'm back again with a much similar situation however the tables have turned.. (I'm heart broken)
My biological daughter who I have joint custody of, she lives a few blocks away with her mother has been involved with some bullying, and it found its way to social media..I raised my children to be advocates of fairness,equality and acceptance along with love and compassion..(so I thought)
She's a minor (16) who's been seeing a boy that's 18-19 (I don't agree with this and had my words with him to stay away)..
I found out that she was provoking a situation with an other young man, dragging her boyfriend into the middle..I did some leg work and to my utter shock this young man has no issues with either my daughter and her dead beat boyfriend..(a mutual friend/parent relaid intell for me)..
Just the other night I find out that my daughter set this boy up to meet her, and her boyfriend was there and this young man ending up getting pulverized.
Apparently is was caught on camera and then placed on social media to degrade this young man..I don't have social media however a mutual parent showed me the clip, and I was completely disgusted on what I seen..The kid didn't stand a chance and never seen it coming..
I had words with my daughter, as I'm utterly in shock and very disappointed in her action..She's made excuses about what happened, and I don't wish to hear them..Now here is where I have decided to take action, some real street action..
I made an attempt to reach out to this young man that was victimized, and had a discussion with him, I extended my embarrassment and disgust for the entire situation and apologized..I told him that I will locate this bully (my daughters BF) and hold him in place and let this kid have his way with him, and if this bully tries to defend himself I will slap him each time he blocks (he is a legal adult).. Further more, I reached out to my contacts,networks and good friends and they have decided to let this young man come train at the school (juijitsu) for 3 months free (hopefully this a game changer for the young man and builds some confidence)..
My daughter is currently not speaking with me, as she feels I sided with this young man in lieu of her, but this isnt about her, its about a victim of bullying..
(Daddies little girl or not, she was in the wrong)
End of rant, the truth unfolds that it was all over nonsense, this young man simply didn't do a damn thing wrong and got caught up in the wrong group is kids (dramatic girls)..
Any advice on what to do here? I have a zero tolerance for such crap and my heart is broken that my daughter would do such a thing.. I'm extremely disappointed in her..Her boy friends on the other hand has it coming (dead beat,drop out, jobless pot head thug wanna-be)..He's dodging me and laying low, I'll find him...
Do I have a dog n this fight? (BTW his father hasn't been in his life since he was a young kid)