badboys
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I never even thought to come here for advice on this subject but what better place than this since my wife will never know and no one here really knows who we are anyways lol. Will try to keep short. I waited till I was 29 years old to get married mainly because I wanted to find the right one in every aspect. Found her and she was my dream girl. Had the looks of a super model and personality to match. She had just got out of a relationship with a professional bodybuilder so she was into fitness herself. She is 5'9.5 barefoot and was 150lbs when we meet. I never dreamed she would gain weight. Now she is 225lbs and its affecting our sex, relationship, etc. I have tried every approach from being the nice guy that didn't say anything to being the pushy coach trying to get her back into fitness. Seems like harder I try the more she rebels and more we fight. I promised her I wasn't never saying anything about it again and that its up to her but deep down I am real unhappy. People try and tell me that you have to grow old and you made a commitment to her for better or worse. I haven't cheat on her in the nine years we been married. What can I do ? I feel like I am too young to go unhappy for rest of my life and feel like I have been cheated on in a sense. Is there anything I can do to motivate her that I have not tried and what about gastric bypass surgery?? I have been reading on it and a friends wife had it done and lost over 100lbs. Or am I just being selfish ?